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Self esteem and You

When asked about what value they associate with themselves, people often give vague and sometimes even fail to give concrete answers. What is even more astonishing is that most of the time, people don't even understand what self-esteem is. In simple words, self-esteem is the value that people associate with themselves. It is how they view themselves, what they consider themselves to be and how they evaluate their own worth.
"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Sharon Salzberg
But why does it matter? What role does self-esteem play in a person's daily life? The answer is simple and complex at the same time. Self-esteem determines what, how and which decisions a person takes. It also guides the way to a person's understanding of self-care and their capabilities and potential.
The level of self-esteem, or the lack thereof, is a major factor in how a person behaves, with others and with themselves. Hence, it is only obvious that people with low self-esteem often experience a lack of confidence in themselves People with low self-esteem find it difficult to express their opinions, as they think their voice does not matter, worse still, they think their voice is wrong and unwanted. Such people go through their lives feeling unloved, awkward and incompetent. They doubt and never fully
But you would ask,
"If I have low self-esteem, or if a friend of mine does, what can I do about it? After all, self-esteem is how a person feels, right? Not how he is made to feel."
The answer lies in this very question, people can be made to feel a certain way that affects their self-esteem. Now this road goes both ways, if you constantly bully or pull a person down, they are bound to fall down the low self-esteem spiral but if they are understood, helped and supported the right way, it can actually boost their confidence and elevate their self-esteem.
And that is exactly what aims to do. We are an anonymous online support community that aims to help individuals share their experiences and issues and interact with experts to feel better. Yes, you read that right, we are here to make you feel better, finding solutions is just a part of it. Because Laurie Anderson has rightly said -
"There is no magic cure, no making it all go away forever. There are only small steps upward; an easier day, an unexpected laugh, a mirror that doesn't matter anymore."