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Question

I need good friends 😭

aloofshads6 · Answer

me too bro

skylar · Answer

where do we find them? Amazon, flipkart Or Walmart.... do tell me if you find!

Jackson · Answer

I believe I am a good person

aloofshads6 · Answer

so where are you from Jackson?

Jackson · Answer

do you guys like to create a whatsapp group, we can plan for a google meet

Jackson · Answer

I am from Kerala, software engineer

skylar · Answer

everyone I find here are either my seniors or juniors...

aloofshads6 · Answer

I can talk to you personally. I'm a second year student.

aloofshads6 · Answer

how can i contact you Jackson?

skylar · Answer

he has given his no. scroll down this comment thread

aloofshads6 · Answer

yep

Jackson · Answer

9947083021 this is my whatsapp number,

aloofshads6 · Answer

how are you doing Skylar.

skylar · Answer

I'm doing awful bro...

holisticmallard6 · Answer

As we grow old friends become volatile. Learn to enjoy your own company. Don't be too needy and dependent on others. No one is going to stay with you forever.

aloofshads6 · Answer

tell me about it. what's wrong.

aloofshads6 · Answer

okay Jackson I'll send you a hi

skylar · Answer

@mallard- I highly agree with u

holisticmallard6 · Answer

Thanks @skylar.

skylar · Answer

exams... I ve not prepared... it seems I can't get into a college this yr

Jackson · Answer

@aloofshads okay thank you, I am only looking for friends

aloofshads6 · Answer

okay don't worry about it a lot.   you'll have multiple chances yk

skylar · Answer

but my productivity, motivation and most importantly mental health is declining bro

deep_thinker · Answer

choose good friends

deep_thinker · Answer

@Skylar wht hpn

skylar · Answer

I'm feeling low.... exams, blame game, not prepared... this whole month passed me being unwell or procrastinating

aloofshads6 · Answer

what about your mental health? are you alright?

deep_thinker · Answer

@Skylar Don't worry.You still have time, use that time wisely to study. Analyze your daily life and find out where you are wasting your time.Then let go of the things that waste your time for a while no matter how much you love it.people will blame us until we reach a height!never give up. Give importance to your career at this time. Be confident 🔥

skylar · Answer

how m I suppose to analyze now...when I got one exam on this Saturday itself? although thanks for ur words.... they did knock a sense in my brain tho

deep_thinker · Answer

@Skylar analyzing daily Life will be useful to you later.  If you believe in god, pray for sometime and forget all the worries in your mind, forgive those who hurt you and mock you. Then, listen to a song you liked most finally eat something sweet. then study as much as you can in these two days. This will reduce your exam stress.

skylar · Answer

I'm still skeptical.... I'll try to as much as I can in these two days.... thanks I'm gonna get to work... it may not be worth it... but it'll be something... thanks!!!

deep_thinker · Answer

@Skylar sometimes it is our last-minute efforts that lead us to success so don't underestimate anything. I think you spend a lot of time here, so reduce the time you spend here for two days. all the best!

skylar · Answer

I have been spending here a lots of time, haven't I? I feel so too... I guess I will have to limit it then... I guess commenting here is my way to escape from my thoughts...

deep_thinker · Answer

@Skylar When choosing a way to escape from your thoughts you need to consider whether it is affecting your career. Must give first priority to your career, if it's love, friendship, mobile addiction or anything else that affects your career badly , must control it.

skylar · Answer

yeah - thanks for giving me reality check.... you know I've tried everything sketching, writing / journaling, meditation  , exercising, even scheduling my day in such a way that's it crammed with studies and other things(that's how I survived till 10th boards.) I stick with these to the point that it gets exhausted - they don't work for me anymore. I dunno what to do....

deep_thinker · Answer

@Skylar Now all you need is peace, lot of thoughts are going through on your head. As the weight of thoughts increases, the mind loses peace. Get rid of all lost feelings in your mind If my guess is correct lost feeling  is the main thing that controls your mind now.

deep_thinker · Answer

@skylar It would be great if you could forgive those who hurt and mock you. It will ease some of the burdens on your mind and give you peace of mind.

skylar · Answer

I can forgive but can't forget, how m I suppose to forget those insecurities and wounds which they gave me....? how m I suppose to forget when I'm struggling - wounds are still fresh?

deep_thinker · Answer

@skylar If anyone has hurt you, be sure to forgive only for your own peace. The more we remember the pain, the more our inner piece is lost. It is better to forget the things that adversely affect our life. This must be forgotten, then only you will have a good life ahead. Keeping this in mind does not bring you any benefits but it does destroy your peace of mind then it's better to eliminate all the blames,pains, rejections you have faced earlier.

skylar · Answer

how will I do that? when every time I look myself in the mirror... I remember everything... when I look at them or when they  repeat same thing... to me... how can one do that when she is grown up listening to these things?

deep_thinker · Answer

Whatever hinders life, it must be removed from the mind.

deep_thinker · Answer

We must learn to evaluate people who consistently show the same behavior.

deep_thinker · Answer

and don't get irritated that's their character we can't change the behavior of others bt we can control the influence of their behavior from our life.

deep_thinker · Answer

Is your life to be ruined for people who don't benefit you in any way?

skylar · Answer

they have not ruined my life yet.... but they are surely my responsibility today, tomorrow or in upcoming future

deep_thinker · Answer

We should not do things to prove ourselves to anyone. We have to work only for ourselves. When we strive to prove ourselves in front of others, even small failures can have a devastating effect on us.

skylar · Answer

I don't think I'm doing anything to prove anyone... never did... probably never will... unfortunately here others are my parents itself... I can't run from them... whatever I'm gonna do Or not, they will always measure it for how dutiful, obedient daughter I'm.

deep_thinker · Answer

Sometimes they treat you that way depending on the circumstances in which they grew up. I'm a 90's kid, and I 've experienced a lot in my schooling time,they argue with us only for our good life.  We realize this when we are successful in life.

skylar · Answer

I read about this in one book- this kind of parenting,but I wish I could accept this theory , but I won't when the other kids in the same are not being risen with the same manner, I guess I was the unlucky one.... thanks for listening

deep_thinker · Answer

Such things can never be justified, we can not correct some old-fashioned thinking, but understand their limitations and try to reduce impact of the influence that their actions create & Never compare our lives with others.

I am not fit for anyone

Unloving

Need someone to talk to!!

not able to accept my reality !!