what are you studying?

inorganic chemistry

I mean are you preparing for any entrance exam?

no

I am in college

hii zesty how are you

hello stork...i am not so good

what happened

actually I am feeling really exhausted today....not feeling to do anything...and feeling suffocated too

why does anything happens that makes you feel like this why?

idk I have been feeling this way for quite a while

maybe because I can't do things properly....like study properly

and do things which I can say but eventually I can't

look i don't know what you are going through but still you have to fight with this situations you might not feel today but you can have this hope and faith that tomorrow will be good

and about the things that you can't do it's ok you can try

more

i think hope is the enemy here because I always hope that tomorrow will be good, tomorrow I'll be productive, tomorrow I'll study hard but that doesn't happens which makes me more bad and my mental condition worse

but you are living with that hope only right it's happenes with everyone even with me too

you are not alone

it's being like this for years now..... and I don't like it

you know what I go through every time and now I feel like I'm used to it and I'm waiting for the time to be changed on it's own

Try setting a screen time limit in your mobile and stick to it. Don't pressurize yourself thinking about the result, like you need not be a top scoring person, only giving your best matters. one thing I realized over time is we only regret not giving our best we don't regret not being the best person in the class.

i don't even think that giving my best matters anymore.... because last time I gave all I can for a entrance exam but still couldn't score well

I think after that incident I have become dull in my studies

what happened can you say

actually all this happened during the pandemic.... starting at the home all the time disturbed my mental health..... I feel lonely and after pandemic I can't talk to people properly like I used to..... and my studies were the worst effected by it.... I couldn't concentrate in my studies I used to scroll through phone all day during pandemic my screen time used to be like 8-9 hours sometimes it used to go over 10 hours and this became a addiction...i couldn't control myself.....i feel like I don't have friends with whom I can share all these.... and I used to love a girl alot but she didn't loved me back which made it worse

ok are you in school or college

college

ok, think where you want to improve, write those down like 1. I want to socialize 2. I want to score well 3. I want to make myself happy then try to achieve those goals slowly like start making one friend start by studying half an hour a day start analyzing what's making you happy whats making you anxious and try to do what works for you. Monitor the person who already is achieving your goals try to learn from them and implement. Don't think about longer term think of it as only a day thing like if I am successful at working towards my goals today then that is enough tomorrow does not matter. Don't over work yourself it's ok to improve in your own pace.

i did this once where I thought of using less phone....it went good for some days but aftera while it was as usual....and i think won't be able to change

u said that monitor the person who has achieved my goal....how do I do that? how do I monitor?

hello are you there?

yeah

could you please answer my previous question

ok, is there a person you look up to like role model

i won't say there's a role model in my life but there's a person whom I wish to become

It's a good thing, work towards it just do what you know, try to be more disciplined from what you said I think distraction is your concern right?

yes it is