And do you guys see each other atleast once in a month or once every two months? Or is it too far to do that?
obsessedtortoise4
too far
David6124
Out of the country far or north and south India far or different state far
sandy22
I'm dealing with same problem he's very practical person and I'm thinking by heart I want his full attention..... he managed his self without talking with my self but I can't.......I can't control my self to with him.... he's my husband 6 months ago we are married and now I'm unstable am always thinking that he is not giving time time or not giving me that attention which I always wanted I dont how can I deal with this
David6124
Arranged marriage?
sandy22
no it's arranged + love
David6124
You're working or housewife?
sandy22
housewife for now
David6124
Hmm. He doesn't pay attention to you even after coming back from work?
sandy22
I don't how to stop thinking about him it's really hurting 🥺 sometime I thought I should go somewhere
David6124
Hold up. Are you guys still living together or he's away for work?
sandy22
sometimes he pay attention but sometimes he's busy on mobile Instagram, WhatsApp.... when I disturbed him he say let me spend some time on my self.... then I thought he needs time for his self
sandy22
I'm at my mom's house
David6124
Oh. Well it is true that a person needs their personal time too. I hope he's not spending too much time on social media rather than paying attention to you.
sandy22
I'm very desperate girl I want control on my self
David6124
You came to mom's house cause of this?
sandy22
I don't know man I can't figured out that he's right or me
sandy22
no no,😅😅😅 not because of this I'm a Indian girl there's some rituals after marriage..... newly married girl went her mom's house for 8 days
David6124
Haan. It's normal to feel like wanting his full attention, but sometimes our partners can't give you attention full time. Consider this, you are working, you'd go early morning for job, will be busy whole day, evening you'll come back, get fresh, have dinner, couldn't touch phone much whole day, you'll reply to few of the messages and chats that piled up, surf on what you missed, let's just say for an hour you'd do that. After that you'd pay attention to your hubby right?
sandy22
now I'm at mom house and still wanted to talk with him I make excuses to call him always found new reason to call him to talk with him for a while I really felt weakened more
sandy22
yeah but his not a working man I mean his a photographer so its not a 9 to 9 job
David6124
You guys are married, no need to feel that it's weak calling someone you love. We are humans only, we yearn for love.
David6124
Hmm. Idk how photographers day be like. I don't know anyone close to me who works in that field
sandy22
but he should also call me right
David6124
He doesn't? During lunch time or dome break time?
David6124
some*
sandy22
ummm there work like weekly means not busy so much
David6124
Okay so one last question. Has it been the same before marriage or you came to notice it now cause you're having free time?
sandy22
he's home this time but he always spend his most time with his friends or on phone or work I know your work must be 1st your priority but I'm also priority he should think about that what i need what I'm thinking
sandy22
I'm noticing after marriage before marriage his very desperate to call me to see me he's always a workholic person but after that he always manage his time to spend with me but now shows that he's managing his time for me or always says that "look now I spend my whole day with you now don't complain okay"
David6124
Hmm. Try talking to him about this. I thought he might be busy with his work. If that's not the case, it's better to let him know what you're feeling. Else it will just keep piling up in your mind, you'll start getting angry for small things, and it will end up in fights. Better resolve it now.
David6124
Actually the thing is, once a person gets into relationship sometimes they take it for granted,thinking that person will be there always. They sometimes won't show the same effort that they showed during early relationship days.
sandy22
I don't want whole day I just want a message or call nd say I Miss you babe I love you but he never say I know he love me so much but I want to hear
David6124
I don't think he's an introvert type to not say the words. Has he always been like that with expressing?
sandy22
David you tell me am I expecting to much
David6124
Hmm. Nope. It's normal only to feel like that.
sandy22
he's not a introvert type person but he's not a expressive about love
sandy22
thank you dude you what i never express my feeling to anyone now i feel relaxed and one thing David I was always share my feelings with him but after some time he gets irritated
David6124
Hmm. Try not to think too much, when are you going back to him?
sandy22
I'm at my house.....in my in laws house
sandy22
he's out with his friends as usual and we are not talking with each other means he's angry but I tried to talk with him
David6124
You guys got into a fight today?
sandy22
yup it's very normal
David6124
Wait what? You guys get into fight everyday?
sandy22
i said to him that you want to live with him that's why you said "if you wanna spend more time at mom's house you can stay" but he knows that I miss him
David6124
Does he make up or you are the one who always makes up after the fight?
sandy22
no David we not fighting everyday it's just normal fighting like children fighting type no one get serious in this
David6124
Oh. The cute type.
sandy22
i am the one who always make up i am the one who always talk first because i just can't live without him or i can't control my self to talk with him so I forget that I angry on him
David6124
Hmm. He's lucky to have you.
sandy22
he thinks that I never happy what he does for me actually he said most of the times that "babe you always a greedy type person about me i spent most time with you still you are not satisfied" but David I want his full attention if you are with me then spend you every sec with me that's my thought that's it
sandy22
thanks buddy
sandy22
I'm afraid once I learnt how to get over this...... I'll change then I'll no more the old sandy who is always love in with him
David6124
Haan. Changes will happen if this continues.
sandy22
i don't wanna change or dont want any change in this relationship i really love him man then I'll do everything what he wants
David6124
The thing is sometimes people will take things for granted and won't know their value until they lose it one day. Currently he has the feel that you will be always there the same way even if he's not giving enough time. This happens in relationships as well as among married couples.
sandy22
heey I couldn't found the page so I message here good night take care and let me know when feel talk
David6124
mm. I hope he comes back early to you. gn
sandy22
hopes so good night and be brave
sandy22
hey David need your help
sandy22
need to talk man where you have been
sandy22
heeyyyy David are you there it's really need to talk with you man