I am married for 6 years and have a 2yr old kid. whenever my husband I have a fight he always stops talking with me for days together. you cannot make him talk noatter what until he wants to talk and then he just tries to put the blame on me everytime. until I agree that I am in fault he doesnt talk. and when I force him to talk he even hits me. I just don't know what's wrong . I don't know whom to reach or who to go to.
he just always does that I don't want to stay in that emotional turmoil always. not talking with me makes me go mad. he knows that well but yet choses to torture me that way.
he doesn't acknowledge my individuality nor my thoughts he always wants me to change everything about me.
u have to decide and move on
Did you share it with your family? ( Your parents or sister )
no I haven't shared it with any of my family or friends.
he takes good care of me and all then I dont know how something that I said becomes the trigger point for his argument.
You should share this to your family.. or someone very close to you like your sister if you have any... this is the very first thing you should do. And don't it randomly to anyone ... Who share with someone who cares for you.
I feel that by sharing with my family they will kind of crumble knowing this.
most of the time we are happy like 70% the 30% when we fight he just becomes another person. I don know which one of us needs help and he doesn't believe in depression or emotional turmoil etc.
No. Don't ever think like that. This is why we have family. When you will talk about this you can come to a conclusion about what is best for you to do. see I can't give any advice nor here anyone can give because we don't know the actual condition and mindset.... but your family know about it and they knows what is good for you ...
it's okay and be happy at least for your 2 yr old kid. Give him/her a happy environment.
I hope I can get out of this and give a better place for my kid. or if I can fix something with my family's help I need to try that.
Does he hits you?
when I irritate him or keep pestering him to talk he hits.