don't be you can find good person also. and it will help a lot
Did you breakup with him recently ?
let him go don't love anything blindly
nope i did it with him 10 yrs before but after i spoke with him generally often nd hurt again and again now he's getting married so i didn't disturbed him but need to forget him completely like he's died that's the only thing I want
it's very tough don't keep any contact after his marriage
no i didn't after his marriage but I've a thoughts about him regularly that's the problem
Have been through a situation like this and its still haunting me like hell
Its common to get thoughts about someone you once loved. It's hard to let go because you entrusted yourself and your emotions with that person after all. And it turns out to be it was never meant to last until the end.
But remember you had a reason why you parted right. And that reason is something which should make you snap into reality from your memories.
@empathicorange3 sorry for asking for help
No it's fine deep thinker. We are here to share pain and happiness and also to heal. No issues at all. Always here to help.
@golda It is very difficult for us to forget them and even if we try to ignore the memory of them it keeps coming back again and again
i don't know really why I saw him in my life.. there's few minutes few days few months but it's long lasting for so many years i really hate it.. he doesn't understand my side and he not even respect me treated me like a dog so many memories are bad but still I couldn't forgot i don't know why
@empathicorange3 i shared my concern bt u didn't respond that's why
Let me tell you something , I was treated like trash by my bf. I suffered most of the time rather than being happy. I knew I was not happy but still I was in it. And finally I couldn't do it anymore and I had to end it myself.
deep thinker, what's the reason you broke up with your gf ? and you golda?
i feel like my half of the life are going like this and it's hurting too much.. I've worried and cried too much bcz of this small things but i couldn't control my emotions i don't how to become strong emotionally
sorry empathicorange3 i don't need a forced support leave it let's help golda
@golda It's a toxic relationship and even if it ends, scars will continue to reflect in our lives
still i don't know the reason @empathicorange3 but he left me he's not interested in me that much i think i may bored
Golda, at first it's going to hurt. Alot more like hell. you wouldn't want to do anything except for crying. I know because I went through it. I was almost reminded of memories everyday and I want insane because I didn't want them come to me. I slowly started to realize golda, the reason why I broke up. You also have a reason, he just left you hung dried without even caring for your emotions.
@deep thinker you're correct and right now I'm in that path
Why care and remember and depress yourself for someone who tore you apart and made your become a person you are now? A person who is so sad and cries most of the same. This wasn't you before you met him golda. If there's anything you should feel is to start hating him for making you go through such a suffering. You need to remember that it was a toxic relationship.
@golda I can understand you because I have been in the same situation
relationship ended but I still haven't found a way to get out of it completely
I think it is possible to gradually get rid of this completely by not keeping any kind of contact
@Empathicorange3 sorry to hear it but he doesn't give any reason i realised he's not liking me
If you really love someone golda, feelings for them shall never recede or disappear. If he truly loved you he wouldn't have receding feelings for you. I am sorry that you are going through it.
@Deep_thinker Yes I'm also hoping it for long but sometimes I've a feeling to talk with him it makes me feel weak and wheeping
I know it's hard to face it, after all it is someone we loved once ago.. it hurts..right. But as time passes by we should learn to let go of somethings golda. Be it memories or past. It's time you need to rescue yourself from suffering because of that person. It might hurt you alot but this is life and the world we live in.
restrict yourself from that kinda feelings
Hmm..i do understand 😔
@deepthinker forcing out everytime doesn't work. The more she restricts the more difficult it will be for her to snap out. She needs to express them out. She needs to understand herself now and what she is supposed to do now and how she is supposed to live right now.
It is the emptiness we feel when they leave from our life that makes us think like this
@deep thinker Yes i do
No matter how difficult it is, we must restrict the tendency to talk again. If we talk to them, they will become part of our life again and they will take advantage of our sincere love
I am experiencing the same thing now but I will never go back to them
@deep thinker Correct but sometimes it's over whelmed and @empathicorange3 @empathicorange3 Thanks for your understanding i feel good when my surroundings understand myself they didn't hurt me that's the only thing I can live bit happier
When we have the tendency to talk again we have to find some way to avoid it. there are times we are unable to control our self
Always here golda, happy to help. And also thanks for hanging in there during difficult times.
This app is the way I found out when the situation came up
@deep thinker i did some mistakes like whenever i have that feelings i searched his profile on social media forums and seeing his new happiest life and came back to normal i don't want to disturb him but I should have break these kinda foolishness I've to live the life of mine
When you have such a tendency, come here and share your worries with someone
Yes it's helpful for me also.. i could change my mind slowly
@deep_thinker Yup that's why I came here today
You can also try reading about many things in this world to get rid of thinking about them
listening to other people's problems here and trying to come up with solutions in your own way can be a way to escape from thinking about them.
we may see many people here who are experiencing similar problems as ours, and such realizations are an asset to us