I developed a crush on this guy (we used to exchange glances, he used to shy away). We have contact no.s which were exchanged not for talking but for some other travel related purpose. He dropped hints of liking me but never responds to my status/pics. Also, he belongs to a conservative rural place so he may be hesitant to initiate. Any suggestions?

Question

alertchile0 · Answer

but do you know him?

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

Yes I do. We met at a function. My parents know him too

alertchile0 · Answer

no don't mean by identity...i am asking you know how he is as a person?

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

Yeah. From what I know, he is an introvert, very shy and meek. He was brought up in a rural area so mindset is conservative.

alertchile0 · Answer

but conservative guys are generally not meek

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

I definitely understood the hints he dropped. Eyes never lie! But he doesn't respond to my statuses. He knows my father so maybe he is afraid I'll tell on hi. I don't understand what he wants. can't stop thinking of him

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

I said conservative, not conventional

alertchile0 · Answer

ok

alertchile0 · Answer

so then will you confess?

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

No no, i don't want to be too direct because I'm afraid of his response. he lives nearby and he sees my father on a regular basis so I don't want to ruin the reputation. Because of his upbringing I'm afraid of what he may say. If he was from a city I'd have texted him hi by now. he barely even comes online. You got any ideas on how to get him to talk?

alertchile0 · Answer

you can start with talking in person about talking online about something...maybe

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

that function is over now. even though we live nearby it's hard for us to cross paths. I'm trying to gain his attention by posting statuses but it isn't working

alertchile0 · Answer

I think if that's the case talking just for nothing might make him little uncomfortable. And if there is something to talk, you guys can have a start.

alertchile0 · Answer

text him directly

alertchile0 · Answer

he seem introvert. He will not reply to status...

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

I'm afraid since he doesn't seem like the normal kind. Have you ever been to the rural areas where it's a big deal to even see boys and girls talk? He grew up in such a place.. man!! if he didn't want to talk then why all the staring and eye contacts? I'm pissed. I was doing fine on my own

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

Yeah you're right. he won't reply.

alertchile0 · Answer

😂. Don't worry, if he likes you he will be responding but he will respond to you even if he don't( because of curiosity he will respond)

alertchile0 · Answer

Only way you have is talking to him to know his thoughts

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

Yeah.. I'm desperately posting statuses for him to talk but.. sakht londa hai!!

tauteland2 · Answer

Understand first before investment.

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

@tauteland2- yeah. I want a chance for us to talk but he is too shy to even respond to my statuses

Question for IamEars team

Venting

People Pleasing