me and my bf just had a huge fight... and he just told me like shame on you, u r a hypocrite.... he said really harsh things... i have done everything for him in every way ... but he sees only bad things in me.... never see what I did... only he sees himself better than me
rrkk
and after all he never break up with me.... ij just don't know what to say to him... i am just to tired of the fights
rrkk
yes i know people will say leave him... but is there another option....
farshy756
well, talking to each other about your needs can also help in your situation.
rrkk
yeah when i tried to talk this was all i heard that shame on you...
rrkk
i did nothing wrong with him.. it's just i fight with him for his time and attention and now when i was not able to give him some time so he told me really harsh things
farshy756
how common are these fights you have with him regarding his time attention?
rrkk
yes so angry... see i have no problem if he takes his anger on me... problem is he never see what I did for him.... like i pay for everything whenever we meet , when we live together, i also give him money for his expenses when he is away.. bcoz i work and he is struggling... but like he needed cash.. i was not able to give it today, so he just burst out that i can do nothing for him
rrkk
it's like he sees good in other people but not in me... then whenever I say u can leave me.. he never leaves me also.... i am just sick here doing everything then listening to these Harsh words
rrkk
he never acknowledges me... then he say that he know i do a lot for him that's why he loves me...
farshy756
how frequently he takes money from you for his expenses?
farshy756
did he apologized to you later for taking his anger out on you?
farshy756
for how long he has been struggling with his expenses?
rrkk
for 2 yrs he is struggling.. like he didnot ask me .. but i myself do it every time bcoz i am earning.....
rrkk
no not apologising bcoz he blames me for everything... he thinks i am selfish hypocrite who just thinks of my own life... this is what he thinks for me... after doing everything for him
rrkk
like tell me should I call him or should I leave him bcoz he told me that things.....
farshy756
just stop doing what you used to do for him and be a little harsh. if he hurts you by his behaviour show that you are hurt through your actions.
farshy756
don't call him if you don't want to hear any harsh words.
rrkk
that's the problem we have... i am at home for festival and he is alone... if i don't call him then again he will think that i am busy in my family and didn't even i called him....
farshy756
he said harsh words to you and he is taking you for granted, atleast show him that you are hurt and angry, so he won't do the same thing tomorrow.
rrkk
but i am scared that he will go away if more i won't show concern for him...
farshy756
if you matter to him the most then he won't go away. if he did go away, it's not the end of life, you can still have new relationships.
