i am very much frustrated right now it was just a new day and within an hour everything is ruined no one is talking to me at my home just because i said that i dont like to do the household things and they are like u like to eat sp u have to do the work what logic is this i dont want to work i dont want to do all that why am i forced to do that and this is my home do i have to pay for what i eat i am feeling terrible

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adoringhawk7 · Answer

calm down and take few deep breathe

adoringhawk7 · Answer

forcing anything on you is not goof at the same time you dont need to fight over this talk to your parents in a calm way...

adoringhawk7 · Answer

things should be sorted

Akankshaa · Answer

i told them and they are like u are a girl u should do this

Akankshaa · Answer

i dont want to

Akankshaa · Answer

and when i say i am getting bored in the house they are like clean the room and do all that shit i do not like to do that why am i forced and said that i am a very bad daughter because i dont do all this

adoringhawk7 · Answer

chill its a desi parent thing to think like that its normal in India.. and dont get irritated but your choice should be respected

adoringhawk7 · Answer

yeah I can understand your feeling

Akankshaa · Answer

is this a definition of a good daughter that they should clean cook and then they can be certified as a good daughter

Akankshaa · Answer

but they don't do that

adoringhawk7 · Answer

thats what they think and thats not true

Akankshaa · Answer

no one is talking to me

adoringhawk7 · Answer

its fine, where are you from ?

Akankshaa · Answer

everyday this is the same thing happening i feel like i should either run away from home or end myself up because i am there shame i should not be here anymore

Akankshaa · Answer

yesterday i had an anxiety attack at night i was so helpless i couldn't breathe i thought everything will be alright tomorrow but now i have even worse anxiety

adoringhawk7 · Answer

You know what Life is always what we think it is.. If we think its hard its gonna be hard if we think its gonna be fun it will be fun.. Dont listen to the bad things about you just try to be on the positive side

adoringhawk7 · Answer

consulting doctor is one thing

adoringhawk7 · Answer

but also try to be on the positive side

Akankshaa · Answer

how not to listen when ur parents start saying all this and become the reason of ur disteres what worse can happen

adoringhawk7 · Answer

Most of the parents are like this and they dont know how to handle things

Akankshaa · Answer

i told them to take me to a doctor they are saying ki kis cheez ki kami hai sb kuch to hai to ye hmare upr shame kyu lana chahti ho pagl ke doctor ko dikhake

adoringhawk7 · Answer

you dont need to think bad about yiurself

Akankshaa · Answer

what else should i ask

Akankshaa · Answer

u only tell me

adoringhawk7 · Answer

making them understand is hard

Akankshaa · Answer

should i die like this everyday

Akankshaa · Answer

or just finish my story in a second and get free from all this

adoringhawk7 · Answer

My suggestion is you can try convincing them by this is not the same time like how you guys grown up lot changed.. let me have my peace I just want to live my life sometjing like this you can try

Akankshaa · Answer

i am not talking to them neither i want to if they wont have this useless daughter around they will be more happy

adoringhawk7 · Answer

what makes you think that death will be a solution what if there are more problems after that because we never know what is gonna happen after that..

Akankshaa · Answer

I don't know i am just fedup of everything 😭

adoringhawk7 · Answer

we can actually control whatever thats happening here

adoringhawk7 · Answer

Are you in school or college ?

Akankshaa · Answer

i am a medical student

Akankshaa · Answer

i am a grown up and not just a normal grown up child i have been facing this the entire life

adoringhawk7 · Answer

cool , so you myt have dealt with morr stressful situations like tjis

adoringhawk7 · Answer

i can totally understand your struggle

adoringhawk7 · Answer

you can tell them you have a lot to study and escape from whatever they are asking u to do

Akankshaa · Answer

that is not as stressfull as this is because this problem is with me since last 20 years

adoringhawk7 · Answer

and believe me no parents will want to hurt their kid intentionally

adoringhawk7 · Answer

you tell them how you feel when you are forced like tjis

Akankshaa · Answer

everyone has made me a mental patient how am u going to be a good doctor no i am not i am useless

adoringhawk7 · Answer

that you are actually hurt

adoringhawk7 · Answer

you are better than many thats why you are here you started taking care of yourself thats why you want to help yourself

Akankshaa · Answer

i feel terrible mujhe accha nhb lgta hai sunke ki mujhe kaam krna hi pdega mujhse koi bt nhn krta pure pure din aur mujhe is baat se anxiety hone lgi h bhot jyada i am not able to breathe

adoringhawk7 · Answer

you are a good soul and more than that you are a clever one you know how to tackle things but you should be calm for that

Sr_raheja · Answer

dude they just want you to learn these things....coz this is one of the thing that is very helpful....and a basic thing to learn

adoringhawk7 · Answer

very sorry im not good with hindi but I can feel your pain

adoringhawk7 · Answer

if they dont feel like doing then there is no point in forcing that...

adoringhawk7 · Answer

First this mentality of learning basic things blah blah is bad.. if you want to do you will learn on your own if not you dont need to

Akankshaa · Answer

things that are required for living I know them i have been living in hostel all by myself for 3 years but i dont find them as enjoyable as they want me to do

Akankshaa · Answer

you are right @adoringhawk7

adoringhawk7 · Answer

yeah you know what is right and wrong just focus there other things will fall in place just try to make yourself better

Akankshaa · Answer

hmm thanks

adoringhawk7 · Answer

whenever you feel bad you cab post here and get a clarity over that

Akankshaa · Answer

but still i am not going to talk to anyone i will be alone no talking nothing i am the black sheep i will not be with them

Akankshaa · Answer

thank u so much for ur time and thanks for understanding

adoringhawk7 · Answer

and there is always chance that you myt not hear things that you want to ... but just be aware you just need to take positive things

Akankshaa · Answer

there is no positive thing here i am not even expecting now atleast from them

adoringhawk7 · Answer

thats good to have that mentality... but make sure you are not affected by the unwanted things said

adoringhawk7 · Answer

you have better clarity of your lyf than anyone so keep that in mind and have fun dont think about bad tjings

Akankshaa · Answer

thank u

adoringhawk7 · Answer

cool then have a better day

Akankshaa · Answer

u too and thanks once again

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