tell him this could cause an end to our relationship and see what he says.

He just never respects me, yesterday too we had a fight, but when I was vulnerable, i get panic attacks, he just doesnot seem to bother, he will just text or call the next day, and when I don't pick up, i will have to call him 7-8 times, until he does.

according to me love is how you love a child, we didn't expect anything from child we just love and care about them immensely, care is rooted in love, if he's not caring about you, sit back and think what are you doing and it is really worth it doing this.

i know it's getting toxic but i have put soo much effort into it, I can't seen to let go

I can understand, but if too much for you to handle at least set boundaries and tell in bold letters this is not cool at all and I'm disturbed by your behaviour, get angry with him, show him you are upset, tell him he's not doing right and good.

if you like to tell may I know your age.

I understand what you are going through. letting go is the hardest thing coz you have invested so much in this relationship and you have no idea how the next one would be , how he's going to treat you and all. Believe me, don't think about him, think about yourself, your achievements, your failures, your career, friendships, physical health, mental health and everything else except him. get better in every aspect. Let him know how to respect the partner, if he couldn't, no matter how much you try, it's all in vain. Don't feel bad about his behaviour. you can control what you can do, but not others. expecting from your partner is not wrong, you have every right to expect from him. and I don't believe in no expectations in love, love should be unconditional and all. I don't think so, expectations are a must, so do the outcomes. if they don't match, then don't concentrate too much on the relation aspect, and concentrate on other things which will let you know what you deserve.

i am 23.

The moment i get angry, he will call saying it's something urgent and then eventually tries to manipulate me, or either poke me so much soo, that I end up calling him multiple times.

i do loose myself in a relationship, it's always about him, when he wants to meet, when he doesnot want to, every night he is busy doing God knows what, he never texts me, no calls, when he is at office i call him, but when at home he disappears, and suddenly next morning he is a very lovely person.

wounds in this early stage of your life wlll haunt you forever. you'll have to take care about yourself other wise you'll never see a pure love from any other side this wound will make a four sided wall around you and you'll be feeling stuck there without knowing it.

it has already been a wall, he doesnot let me make friends, but he ends up having fun with his, he has no time for me, the moment he stays is like he is doing me a favour, i really wanted someone to be by my side today, i have been feeling low from a few days, also sick, but he just left.

my family warned me about him, but he seems to be soo perfect, when I get away he will be a perfect man, flowers gifts, nice words, request to meet, but then when I am with him, the utmost disrespect.

sorry, i am just blabbering everything, there's so much inside me

a pure honest cared love is a blessing to have and if your showing this much input in this relationship, just imagine if you'll find a person whose reciprocating the same amount of love to you, you'll never stop smiling, trust me, and a person like you will definitely attract the same amount of love as they like to offer.

speak your heart out we are here to hear.

I don't know, i have been very unlucky with relationships.

he has been having a whole new life lately, he is enjoying his shit, and each day I become more vulnerable, the tendency of me crying at literally everything has increased.

and he be laughing at whatever I say, i am seriously hurt today, he should a atleast stayed a bit longer

comforted me, that means a lotm

I know you're totally right

and I know you don't wanna listen this right now, but he's doing what he's feeling.

What should I do then?

just see this from a vantage point. evaluate everything. otherwise you'll be punishing yourself, please don't do this, at least tell him in fucking loud voice that it's enough.

make him realise that you're not liking this at all and you're angry with him and upset with as hell.

i get aggressive at points, but he doesnot seem to bother, but i will try.

i am just soo dumb, i get into his words.

But now I will.have to take a stand, i will be angry and ignore him, treat him as he treats me.

show him that fear that your feeling, show him that this will an end and if care to be with me change your self, otherwise I loved you and I will love you forever but we'll not be living together.

That's true, i will now have to take a step, whener i speak about it, he goes like, i am not your slave, you can do whatever you like.

then you will do what you like. and this drastic change of events trust me he'll be surprise seeing your this badass Avtar.

True that, I need to make changes to how I react to situation.

thank you for the support 😊

I've different scenarios, but I'm experienced that walls and I still do. seeing you that made me feel like i was talking to myself.

i am so thankful, someone was there, i feel lighter

it was lovely meeting you, keep me updated 😊best of luck you'll gonna rock for sue💯💯

I spoke to him, he didnot call me or anything to check on me, so i did, i told him how I felt, he started blaming me for not listening to him for going to get the medicines, I said i just needed some comfort, and for you to stay a bit more, he said that can't be done, i was burning with fever the whole night, i told him, he said it's all your fault, you should have listened to me, i complained about its always being about him, he always checks his phone, when with me, for the time, as of he cannot stay a bit longer, the moment he finished his phone he was like, let's go we will get some medicine, i was not willing to go then.

He blamed everything on me, i then said i don't want to be with you anymore, i am deeply hurt, he was like okay, because he doesnot care enough for me, he will go and enjoy his life, this weekend, he will enjoy with his family, and let me be sick, and alone.

gather yourself and listen to me, I'm saying this with total confidence, there this thing in boys not everyone but good number of them, when ever the boys get too much love care and attention they unconsciously consciously starts taking their partner for granted, he's utterly convinced and 200% sure about the fact you won't be leaving at any reason at any case, NOW ITS TO BREAK THAT OVERCONFIDENCE, he's convinced that you'll never leave despite of any his actions, I'm literally very sorry but he again showed that he didn't care, I'm mean when your sick that's very scary and vulnerable time we need someone to fuckin to hold on, we needs someone's hand in our hand. it's high time to break his overconfidence you know what you have to do just do it. break his and trust he will be regretting this and he'll come to you, as guy as man these male chauvinist thing is in rooted in us by birth, all the women's in our life changes that in us.

tell him you don't want to see him again, and just for few days

you have valid reason to do that.

I said that to him, he seems to not care at all, i infact said, i don't want to see him anymore, he just went like as you wish.

And when things get really ugly, he would just come to meet me, and behave as if he has done all he could, he came to see me, what else could he do, i am soo much stuck man

Yes, i have made a decision to leave him, on his own, and let time teach him lesson, he says no one can ever treat you good, when I started confronting him.

then do it and trust me trust me he'll be regretting this, its just an uccared overconfidence, take all medication get back on track again whenever you feel good take a shower, and you'll be showing his time you're taking a a huge step in few when he'll be see your posts and story in all your glory and power that would be his first reminder that dude she's not bother at all she's not missing me at all and she's doing good, this behaviour of yours he never anticipated and trust me in few days he'll be in shock after not hearing anything from you, these will make him insecure and then he will be calling you trust me and from there you can take it wherever you want but on your terms.

love and relationships are always a two way thing you can't hold weight alone for to long you'll always need someone.

You are absolutely right, I need to now take a major step, even if he wishes to meet me, or comes to my doorstep, i will deny, let him be on his own, few days he may enjoy, but maybe after that he will have a sense of regret, I can't spend my life being treated as someone's second priority, I need and want to be first, whatever it takes.

Yeah, everytime I share my vulnerability, he is kinda happy that I am not okay without him, i need to crash his ego for once and for all, i will lead my relationship as I wish to.

exactly now he'll have to taste his own medicine how it feels when you are alone. sad and sick.

True, but i don't think he will care much, he stays with his family, i came all the way around this city, to stay close to him, sadly, i was wrong.

But however long it takes, if he still doesnot approach, i will need to leave him, i will enjoy my own company.

and I really appreciate how courageously you spent your whole night in fever and in this state physical and emotional, stay courageous always, if you loving him like this the universe will definitely sends all the love back to your a good human knows how to love how to respect relation before anyone else you deserve all the happiness of the world just ask for it.

Do it now he will be experience the unexpected.

and let me know how it went.

Thank you soo much for being there, i will share whenever I am low, you didnot say just leave him, you gave a great advice, he should feel what i have gone through, i will remember this for a lifetime Thank you😊.

much love, go and shine 🌙

I have not been speaking to my bf for last two days, but he texted me 3-4 times, and today morning he said, don't worry I won't ever come to meet you, is this gesture backfiring me.