Every relationship requires some amount of independence. these problems arise when one of you has hobbies and work and passion and the other has too much free time. may I suggest first thing, sit together and set a time for each other every day. this should be your happy hour. secondly, during other times, please find something that you love doing and indulging in. all the best.
I agree with humble. Usually my gf and I talk in night since we both have work during day time, but when I went home for two days break, I felt like she doesn't have time to talk with me and is busy, but the truth was nothing changed, I was just free in home and she was busy with work as usual. Same happened to her too, when she took two weeks leave and left for home. Since she was at home she couldn't call in night like we used to and daytime I'd be busy with work, which ended up as fighting somedays. It's important to maintain constant communication, specially in long distance relationships, you should try to find a time suitable for both to talk. And do try to find that time.
if he loves you.... He will give you priority and will text you whenever he gets time because he misses you. No one is really busy in life. it's all about priorities. He should give you time in a day for atleast half and hour... if he doesn't give you your relationship is not working well.
he tells he is super busy but on weekends he calls me and talks for hours
im always free but he is busy this makes us get into an argument
that's the problem. you're always free. if he's spending hours on weekends to just talk to you, that means he also wants to talk. try not to push him too much during working hours. you guys can call each other when you're cooking, walking from work, eating, n even sleep together in night by staying in call if the other person is in sync with the same schedule. try to understand from his position too.
I will understand but I'm too emotional that makes me hurt he chats only 5 to 10 mins in a day during works due to lack of sleep
Hey obsessed tortoise4 you should talk to him about it seriously. I am saying this to you because I have seen many cases when people start giving less time than suddenly leaves ..... That's why you should talk about these issues ..... ( You can clearly see if there in his eyes ... his care will tell you ... see if he is worried about you... notice these small small things )
Rather than asking him right now ask him this weekend. Not confrontation but normally talk with him, don't tell him directly that you're always busy and it's hurting me. Just talk to him normally, find out his schedule ask him if we can talk in that time for example while he's on the way to work or during lunch(if he's with some friends then you can't ask) n if none of it is possible just ask him to stay in call with you while sleeping.
sure but to tell he has to work during nights and sleep mrngs and attend interviews mrngs I'm pretty sure he is busy but as I love him so much I miss him and thats hurting me
I wish he could speak with affection after his work when he texts for 5 mins but he talks normally
After few months we can't talk each other as he goes home can't even text soo it's hurting me