a person rejects me for 10 yrs bcz of this one reason that i started to talk with him nd he said he couldn't trust me..
Shahzad8
no its not a wrong thing. But i think your crush does not like possessive girl. May be he was not expecting the same from you. It is better to move on. Forget the past and focus on present.
Golda
Yes, i usually initiate the talk with everyone in public whether it's a boy or girl but personally I did with him alone coz I love him i don't know why he couldn't understand it
arjun0813
Go on be confident...start with some common topic...but don't over text...don't seem desperate
Golda
okay
Shahzad8
@golda may be he is not interested but think you as a friend only. Give him some time. If he is not interested, you cant force him to be interested in you. It is beyond your control. If you continously message him privately, your friendship with him might be ended. This will in turn, affect you more mentally.
Golda
and sometimes I feel like I'm emotionally wounded nd weeping to thinking with hurtful things most.. is anyone know how could I come out of it?
Shahzad8
Keep yourself involved in other activities which you like the most so that your mind is diverted to other things. Idle mind is the devil's workshop.
Golda
@shahzad8 You're right i did that mistake plenty of times in my past... now I realised nd changed bit even though As like u said that i already affected mentally nd I have some hurtful memories also so how can I erase it pls tell me if anyone know about it
Shahzad8
It will take time. They cant be removed entirely immediately. When you become buzy in your life, the memories will slowly slowly erased.
Golda
how long it will take coz it's too painful sometimes I couldn't even share with anyone else
Shahzad8
I cant specify how long it will take. You can share with me if you want to.
Golda
nd may I know over crying is it a problem? is any abnormal thing?
Golda
will I be weak if I cried daily night too much?
Shahzad8
a problem
Shahzad8
@ golda you will weak mentally and thus, it will affect your personal & professional life.
Golda
i feel like it's a serious thing which I have to care about it
arjun0813
Crying is not a problem at all... everyone do so but nobody shows it....some people get over things easily and some takes time so there's nothing wrong in it...and tbh crying has alot of benefits scientifically too...you don't have to worry about anything...cry as much as you want...this is a way of letting out your emotions and a person who can cry and let out is much more stronger than other individual who can't cry because he ain't letting out his emotions...so you are much more stronger than you think
Golda
Thank you Arjun.. i agree coz I did so many things to come out of this feelings i tried relocate to change my environment, i changed my job, i met lot of Ppl, i tried excercises listening musics and I talk with my safer girl friends daily for an hour also
Golda
even though when I'm on the bed i started crying alone nd thinking about some hurtful moments i tried spritual side also but it's like a regular habit i don't when will I change it completely
Golda
I'm changing day by day I've seen it but not that much, this is the only platform i have now to sharing my feelings at anytime whenever I feel overwhelmed
arjun0813
there will be a time when you won't feel like crying...you might feel low but you won't cry...you might think that there's nothing to cry about but you gotta have patience till that time comes...
arjun0813
I'm sensing so much of positivity from your texts and I'm not even Kidding...you will get through it...winners need to go through some obstacles to get what they want...I sense you can do it...
