somebody please help me to take a decision.which one is good?whether to leave for others by making them happy or to leave a selfish life that makes me happy and powerful.I m a person who likes to live for others at the same time i want to make me happy.I m confused.If you want to succeed you need to be selfish person or if you want to get moksha you should leave without any desire.I don't get any idea regarding this.My character is also fluctuating.

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somebody please help me to take a decision.which one is good?whether to leave for others by making them happy or to leave a selfish life that makes me happy and powerful.I m a  person who likes to live for others at the same time i want to make me happy.I m confused.If you want to succeed you need to be selfish person or if you want to get moksha you should leave without any desire.I don't get any idea regarding this.My character is also fluctuating.

T · Answer

see....u should first think about yourself.... cause when u are full only then u could help others or make them happy when u are not happy and try to give yourself to everyone then it'll only hurt u.....so think about yourself too

T · Answer

and if u wanna do what u like and also not hurt anyone then try another way of doing the thing....

unknownspecimen · Answer

I'm also in the same situation,  i got one thing that i must be strong and strict...    but still confusing..

T · Answer

u just need to be yourself and restrict the things that bother u.... by ignoring them

unknownspecimen · Answer

but the society, relatives and even parents are against this

T · Answer

but u can't let everything bother u.... some things which are under our control can be managed...... here only parents are the one..... there is no need to think about society or relatives

T · Answer

when u take out relatives and society only one thing is left and that are parents and they are the ones who matters the most

unknownspecimen · Answer

but sometimes, i can't accept parents also.    it's human feeling, coz we are also humans.

unknownspecimen · Answer

@sadseahorse5,  u can tell what u r feeling abt this here

unknownspecimen · Answer

haha, that's why i asked. by knowing others opinion we can get some idea on that

T · Answer

yaah sure u won't agree with them max times and they wouldn't with u....everyone sees yhe situations differently ànd with the experience they had......

unknownspecimen · Answer

yeah I agree with that they have experience.  i have done almost all, but atleast sometimes we have to do what our heart says by analysing it.          I'm not blaming anyone, but one thing i wanna share is that is

unknownspecimen · Answer

everyone has feelings and  it's a human thing.        So be strong to survive in this soceity

T · Answer

yeah ... that is true.... we need to be strong

T · Answer

cause we can't expect another person to feel the emotions we are going trough cause they may know about it.... but only we feel them and know how they affect us

unknownspecimen · Answer

yes thats correct

sadseahorse5 · Answer

yes dearss..but when  becoming more nice and kind to people they are really missusing my character.it really hurts.But when we react against anything i feel angry on myself..Now i m facing too much insults..i feel like i lost self-respect..they says you are too humble and kind..So i feel i don't want to hurt anyone ..all are good..everyone have a good heart..But none of my co workers are not like me..they are very competitive and smart..they won't agree their mistakes..

T · Answer

u Don't need to go out of ur way for anyone...... just keep doing your thing and learn a bit to prioritise yourself first........ cause u can't handle everything or everyone..... u have yourslef to take care of too so just show your kindness to a certain extent and let certain things go unnoticed

T · Answer

when u feel like they missusing u just say so... don't accept it.... i too am like this I feel too bad if i don't help someone even when they take advantage of me..... I don't keep it inside. ... now i learnt to say my heart out.... I just say that u just always ask me unnecessarily and just take advantage cause I let u do so..... yet I do certain things but also say it when it goes overboard

T · Answer

so u try too to do so and speak yourself out

fondfish2 · Answer

First focus on yourself and help others too . The happiness you get by helping other is amazing and it also help in your path of success

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