hey, I am a daughter of a single mother. my father was very abusive and still haunts us. We did not have any financial support so I have been working since 18 for my family. now i finally got a good job and I have one semester left to graduation. I got a remote job and my problem is that due to my father's past behavior, my mother has become very controlling. I am working from home and I am not allowed to live like other people. being at home I have lost all my friends and recently my mother found out about my boyfriend so she stopped talking to me. so from past 20 days. i haven't talked to anyone just working on my laptop at home. whenever i feel lonely i get suicidal thoughts. I have always been friend less and lonely I feel.

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Vickey · Answer

Oh u are very brave girl, U need to talk to ur mother

InYourDreams · Answer

you are the only person your mother got so don't think about sucide. talk to your mother about how you feel and what you want to do. tell her how you want to live your life. if you don't say it she'll never know it. and you did pretty good already, you're self dependent and got a decent job too. More power to you and i hope she understand you. talk to her.

dearclam5 · Answer

I can understand. Your mother is trying to over-protect you. But she has past troma. As you say. If you say that for therapy. She says no. But you should try to overcome yourself first. You need to convince her that you are too mature

dearclam5 · Answer

To be honest I have that issue. Because I have health wise I have to issue so my mother is too over protected

maybesomeone · Answer

thanks for all the comments. when she found out about my boyfriend. I talked to her I just wanted to go to college live a life. make my own decisions I m 22. but she said she would never see my face if I live independently. i had to leave everything and choose my mother. but each day now seems hard and lonely. I just don't see the point of earning and living when I cannot be free. my mother doesnt want to listen to me at all. she is the kind that thinks she is right only

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?

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