loving is not a sin, find a not-dumb best friend

@bearwiththickhead will she be mad at me forever? :'(

wait for her decision bro. if possible tell her in person that "yes I like you I did not tell because I did not want you to be uncomfortable". if you feel like her friendship matters more than having a relationship with her tell her that also like " now also I can be friends with you, at any time if you get feelings for me let me know I will be happy otherwise also it's fine " But whatever you decide try to follow it. all the best

@stuckbutterfly you're using too many words, it'll confuse her

@excludedoatmeal0 there is no such thing as forever, and telling her your feelings will free you from any guilt of hiding something from your bestie

@bearwiththickhead is it? I want to convey better so only, I hope he understands what I have said

@bearwiththickhead she literally yelled at me saying "my parents trusted you" "I trusted you" "everybody trusted you" and asked is this what you do? I only felt even more guilty and it's killing me istgggg :'(

@excludedoatmeal0 why did she shout at you, what did you do and where did she shout, were there people around

@stuckbutterfly justifying your stance is right is not conveying, its passive intimidation

if you want to be friends with her even after she rejects you, its a sign of lowered self-esteem

@bearwiththickhead we were in college and yes there were people around, so this is how she found out, she went through her sisters phone and found me venting to her and she started yelling you were my friend only because you wanted to date me, everybody told me not to trust you, but I never even once doubted you, now I hate you with all the willpower I have :'(

@bearwiththickhead and she has a boyfriend :( so, I guess I can't except anything from her and idk why her boyfriend keeps calling me I just didn't pick up the call.. I'm scared he's going to yell or sumn

she's wrong for this, since when does a guy who wants to date a girl is untrustworthy? and friendship is not an agreement, its a bond developed over time without discussing conditions. If she wants to discuss conditions of friendship with you, its just an arrangement for her benefit. I will not suggest wasting time there again.

@bearwiththickhead but it's her:'( I don't wanna leave her I'm so scared she isn't going to talk to me ever

she's dumb for humiliating you like that, probably has ill feelings too, don't go swimming where you know sharks come often

@bearwiththickhead but I don't think she's doing well either, maybe she's in shock, I should give her sometime.. I mean yea her reaction is justified

whatevs man, you seem too naive to see the fraud here

@bearwiththickhead you don't know bro :'( she was there for me when nobody else was and she never makes fun of how I skinny I look and never ever makes me feel bad in anyway, she's always been there for me I love her so much

she's mature enough to not judge you casually so you feel she love you

@bearwiththickhead I called her rn and asked if she's okay and she asked me where I am because I wasn't in college, I said I'm in my room I didn't feel like going to college.. two minutes later her boyfriend called and is asking me what's your problem.. if you ever call my girl friend again I'll cut your ears

and you still don't understand

@bearwiththickhead after talking to him I kinda lost the respect for her idk why..I really thought she wouldn't let him do that but she still did

what kind of a friend is she if she can't acknowledge your feelings. That's the least we can expect!

now go find a girl who needs you in her life

not someone who pretends to want you

dont be the second option u deserve better

@humorousMagpie7 you remember me? I'm Joel, I was asking you how to confess my feelings and you said If she really is your best friend she'll understand

@bearwiththickhead I talked to her sister and apparently they talked on the phone and she literally said she misses me so much itseems and she wants to talk to me but her boyfriend wouldn't let her

so you're thinking her boyfriend is the villain and you're going to save her? move on bruh