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I have senior at workplace. who is older than me at the project. they are kind of lead to our team but not officially. They are very rude and prejudiced towards me
To add more. They lack technical skills that are needed for my job. They have good relation with our client though. so they hold some power in the team. But overall they are below average technically and good with communication stuff
what makes you feel thos is only towards you...There are different ways to look at it 1. It is their nature 2. The job demands it, they are under their own pressure 3. Expections went wrong 4. They are biased...which ofthese do you think it suits you or is there anything else
Personality. They are like self centred narcissistic person. Who chooses to shame their peers in order to show their disapproval.
U just need to do the kaam se kaam vaala thing n sometimes sarcasm helps too
They senior never admits to their mistakes. Call out other people for small things. try to be bossy and rude
which sector are you working for ?
I stood up to them so they went out of their way to berate me in front of my whole team
It sector. Engineer
The senior is basically a somebody who doesn't listen to others. Is rude if things are not their way.
holds some power and abuses it.
she isn't much older than me.
u can put up a sober way of crossquestioning over things that will make them feel awkward .. n can realise too at times .. ur skills can be seen by other heads too .. they will be also like having good terms with you then they'll think good about you too .. so it will be like u will completely have kaam se matlab vaala thing
well IT sector, I always tell my team diplomacy is the best to survive in the IT Industry.. You don't confront people on the face nor do you discuss about it with your peers cause you never know who tells whom...Am saying this as a lead...
I am a fresher who joined recently.
kaam se kaam hi rakhta hu
Thing is she is picks small things and makes fuss and shames me. when they themselves are that good. They avoid difficult work they don't know. I do it.
are not that good*
Its basically self centred person. Who has big head but no skills. when they talk down on me I talk back
then they choose their influence to cause trouble for me
dekho sober and innocent crossquestioning and sometimes when they start blaming in ur crossquestioning me bhi to u be like sir mere se jyaada to aap bade hai n jyaada experience hai islie aapko pucha .. me to naya islie nahi aata .. aapko to puchunga hi na sir
you are a fresher then pal you gotta a learn a lot... First unlearn the fact that you are know more in college and that you are in a corporate environment.. You cannot get frustrated about it so easily you still have many years ahead...Focus on learning, upskilling yourself, go to work , hvae fun with your team, come back home... don't get into any unnecessary stuffs... unless you know someone who is unbiased in the team to share things
Dian.. I understand what you are saying
honestly calm is required because job me ye sab hota hai but then take a stand by being sarcastic or doing smarter way if they are really being mean or wrong kinda
My problem is when this person who is less skilled then me.. acts all big shot but is not that good. Behaves rudely what does tactics to trouble me what shall I do.. I don't chase anybodys validation or visibility in this project. I just don't want to be troubled. if I ignore it's a problem. If I don't it's like getting involved in argument. when I confront them with facts tell them on their face that they are wrong. They ignore. still behave in same way. If I try to resolve issue they don't want to talk because they sort of know. They will be in spot.
obviously there comes a point where obviously they need you for work so when possible be sarcastic and make ur weakness ur strength
They are definitely mean and wrong. I am young they have 1 year over me. But they act like they done some big work. There are senior who are way old that are much humbler
You getting my point? Take an example.. some task has to be done. if I do it one way .. they say why is it like this.. even if there is no difference. They are kind off control freak who seeks visibility . show themselves as good employee. I have no problem with their mindset or lack of knowledge. its just I don't wanna be bothered
also one question to both of you?
when you work under senior who a make calls? tell you to do things.. when they themselves lack knowledge? how do you keep your ego aside?
Btw see what I would suggest is when they say something like that it is basically to trigger u .. if u r triggered obviously they will do it more .. simply don't trigger urself and give facts about the things .. if they say they know be like yeah sir ofcourse I admire u sir .. I am learning from u
I feel like I should say back because they are arrogant.. and it's not justified because they are not good
vai.. I can't be sucker.
there are other seniors in team who admire me for point to point speaking
I don't suck upto people should I do that?
I like to stand my ground
especially if I am not wrong
what do you say.. should I cave in
See just think in a way like I am here to do the task I am assigned with and do things that are not harming someone or hurting someone .. I am just paid for the task simple .. Ok sometimes I need to work a little harder though but ego will make u more annoying so just do the task .. be sarcastic sometimes to relieve stress when it is like kuch jyaada hi wrong like getting personal ya aisa kuch .. Personal hai to obviously take a stand
mujhe kaha jata I lack ownership. But I actually do the things they leave because some things need more technical expertise. I don't judge for not knowing. I sometimes teach them
Its a issue with person who won't hold themselves accountable of they are wrong. Big ego and bad mouth
anyways I ll try what you said
Yeah u can say back ofcourse .. but be like ki I am doing my work .. I won't let their annoyance trigger me .. Think like people jo mean hai jo aisa karte hai they are not itna bhi important ki me iska sab sochke me apna relaxing time bhi aise logo ke vaje se stress .. if it's too much say back .. they are saying u also say at times and leave it just like they do .. n talk facts like if they say something again what u said in a different way to show u are wrong .. simply just show the facts ki end me ye hai n iske end me bhi ye hai don't say simply and long me explain .. simple take the simplest point and say are ye to same hai in a laughing way .. are sir ne n maine same bola ok ok .. n if they say no it's not same go into facts and say ye to ye hai .. n still if it continues be like ok ok u r telling aisa kya kya .. ok ok me samaj gaya aap kya kehna chaahte ho .. humaari baat koi samje na samje Hume to aapko samajne ka dimag rakhna hi hai .. aap humaare head hai
U get my point
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