you r insecure about yourself

start working out, get more confident with your own body and your relationship

one of the very common reasons of jealousy is insecurity within oneself, learn to love yourself and be confident in ur own body, relationship, social life and blah blah.

I am confident about my body and relationship. but I don't know why it bugs me , god im so evil 😭

plus I am an introvert and she's extrovert , she can socialize easily whereas I can't this makes me feel more envious .

see what i think is that...firstly u encourage ur roommate to do something good for herself and u genuinely want her to be good but the moment she starts doing it , u feel like why is she doing it and not u.

yes , maybe like that. actually at first when we met , she was different , now while staying with me she began to build a habit of staying like me , from dressing to make up and everything. that didn't bug me , but this does

by ' this ' I meant the problem I mentioned in the caption.

its common for someone to behave like some other person if the two are spending most of their time together .

what i feel is that u want her to be good but also u want the same thing for urself but u r too either underconfident or lazy enough to do that and now when she starts doing that thing , u start feeling like " it was my idea and instead of me , she is benefitting from it ".

the solution to this is that u need to work on urself too. you need to start going to the gym with her and do what u feel is good for u

First you have to change your feeling that you have done her a big favor, maybe someone else will suggest it all if you don't and how well their relationship is progressing is because they both put effort into it, not because you suggested, also her body is fit because she works out well and not because you suggest gym to her.

Realize that this is not a big deal and try to move forward with more focus on your own life, try to be satisfied with what you have, being jealous of others will surely destroy your life and mental health.

@happyguy12 yeah you're right. thank you, also am I a bad friend?

@deep_thinker no you're getting me wrong, I never said or thought I made a great favour or something. she was underweight hence I suggested her to take gym it'll help you . I will always help her when things goes rough.

If we sincerely do a favor to someone, we will never regret it later.

I am not misunderstanding you but that is the reason why you have such thoughts.

It's very difficult to accept some things but only by understanding things one can get a peaceful life

@deep_ thinker ugh no, you will not understand, anyways , thank you!

maybe! good night

hi! Jealously is a feeling we all go through in life. You should address it by focusing on yourself. How do you wanna see yourself in coming years? Since you go to gym what physique you want to achie? Just be so busy in building yourself dressing up everyday for yourself taking such small steps which can build your esteem. When you come across such thoughts don't indulge into it distract yourself or just remind yourself i have my own life i can't spend my time on thinking such stuff. Helping someone is a good deed it opens your horizon. Keep helping and don't expect back anything any gesture or regard just help for seeking blessings and just forget about it'll always keep you sane.

@euphoricTruffle2 you made my day , thank you 😊