this possesiveness is good if u have protective instinct, but if it's Overprotectiveness Or jealousy... u need to get it in check.

it's ok to be possessive but dont let it ruin your friendship because it's not compulsory that one will feel the same way it will only hurt u so just try to trust and don't be too much possessive over him don't let urself care too much

but I'm letting myself care too much idk why. and the problem is that he may not feel the same way about me. but sometimes I feel that he does that to me intentionally because he knows that would bother me. can this be possible.

it can be both or not, but dont assume things on ur own. take ur time... do u have feeling for him? think about it. and do u feel possesive only when he interact with a certain person or anyone in general . ?

maybe but don't let urself hurt in it ..u said he may it means it's not confirm right? so just ignore him for a while see if he cares maybe u will know ur answers by it

a certain person I do feel. he's not only our classmate but his neighbor. because he's the only one I feel he can have better bonding with.

why do you feel like that against third person ? I mean there must be some reason.

because that third person tries to monopoly my friend. and my friend seems to fall for him. that other guy is less funny, adventurous or mature than me.

don't u trust ur self or him ? if u do no need to feel like that everyone is different and have different bonds maybe ur thinking too much just try to figure it out

did u try sharing ur concern with ur friend?

no not yet. because it may sound like I'm trying to initiate a tension between them.

why do u feel like it ? it will clarify ur feelings try to talk it out

I think u should, if he's a good frnd he will listen to u.

yeah Skylar is absolutely right..

but what am I supposed to say. I feel he should be concerned enough to me that he figures it out himself.

also my friend talks to him more than he talks to me. but as I said I can be intentional to pull my leg or something.

it's not always possible for PPL to know about feelings of other sometimes we need to tell them about it ourselves to clarify..just say how u feel

that's why my friend u should talk to him and see what happens

@Moonmin05, it's a great advice. I'll try to observe him a few more days and then I'll talk to him.

see @shads , u can't make choice for ur friend, I can understand seeing ur best friend replacing u Or getting more close other is not at all a good feeling... we all have been there at some point. the friend which is leaves u for another is not at all a good friend.

yeah @skylar is right... but i just wanted to know is it ok that i don't feel jeleous or possessive towards my friend it's just that it's ok for me if they talk to others or get close cause i trust them that what i have with 'em other won't have

I too can have that feeling but I'm insecure.

i know but i just wanted to know that if my thinking is right

yes it normal, usually we feel jealous or possessive towards we have been frnds for a long time or u r too close.

even feeling insecure is normal.

thanks for it @skylar

I remember myself being like that too.. when I called her out for first time, she felt guilty and apologized, I felt sad too, within a yr I realized she's changing... running after boys.. chasing fame, etc etc. I called her out again (I needed a frnd who would just listen to me) she took it casually and shrugged it of. so one day I decided to take a diff approach mocked her and teased her about changing frns (it's normal between frns teasing and mocking,isn't it? ). but she felt offended, and replied really rudely and became defensive, I felt really bad, I didn't even realize I was crying - this all was happening in a class of 20-30 girls and even sir was present, he was really shocked (along with everyone)to see how she talked. nd I rarely cried. that was definitely one of the most embarrassing incident. after that I simply stopped chasing these 'friends'. everyone was like aquitance , some more close , some less.

were you bothered by her changing because you bonded with her deeply or were you felt you had just her and not many other options.

we were friends since Nur. also we were group of 3 ,one of our friend had to move States due to her father's job - she was actually my bestfriend ,after departure of our 3rd members we automatically came close. we had our own ups and down, but were always close, sharing life and things. I didn't mind her changing, but it started becoming too much when she started weighing her problems on me, and not being there when I had mine. I also felt being left out like a lot . she's more on girly side with more understanding parents and I'm kinda tomboy with strict parents . so I guess somewhere it was me who kept her from exploring things, that's why she left me... may be, or may be I didn't seem interesting enough for her. who cares? I'm fine with where I'm. we still talk from time to time. I'm still there if she need to someone to listen, or a shoulder to cry on. I would rather take her selective problems than her whole prob weighing on me. Ive got my own enough to handle.

ohhh wowww!!! sorry @skylar i lost your reply. it's a same thing I'm experiencing. you said you think you weren't interesting enough for her, I also feel the same way. I feel I'm not interesting enough for my friend. but the thing is that he prioritizes less witty and more boring people than me. so idk.

so are you friends with her just out of respect of what you had before OR are you still attached to her and somewhere in your heart want the things to go back to the way they were.

no I don't expect things to go back the way they were - don't keep this mindset,it's a unhealthy way of thinking. friendship is a two way street. I think when u r friends with someone like 14 yrs - the bonds get personalized, also note the fact that we live in same locality , and I think this frndship will remain until she or anyone tries to reach me out. in the end I'm always there. (even though sometimes I don't want to. somethings are just played by life, lol. )