I'm not really doing very good and everyone in my inner circle are not reachable rn... I'm in not in a very bad place but there are lot of stuff going on and I'm not sure how to deal with things... what do i do?

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spiritualstripper · Answer

I would also feel great if anyone free rn helped me with this

itsmeee · Answer

Hey, how can I help you?

spiritualstripper · Answer

maybe u could take me venting through text if free?

parrot · Answer

maybe you can talk to me

itsmeee · Answer

Sure, go on. I'm ears.

spiritualstripper · Answer

well firstly all my close friends have moved away and i can't contact them, at least for a couple months or maybe more... and my parents have more things on their plate... I feel like I'm not being myself and I find myself doing things I swore I would never do in my life... and me being an introvert doesn't help me fit in the new school I just joined... although everything I say would seem lame it's not actually not good for me...

spiritualstripper · Answer

and the fact that I'm good at things some humiliated me for not doing the right way also is bugging me... all bcz of my introverted self...

itsmeee · Answer

I see, I feel you. I'm studying at a new place too, and even though it's been months, I don't really know how many of my classmates wouldn't mind me calling them my friends.

itsmeee · Answer

it isn't lame at all, I totally get you

itsmeee · Answer

the 'I'm not being myself' part is relatable too

spiritualstripper · Answer

I'm not able to express what I'm actually thinking ot feeling and i feel like utter crap bcz of this... n my now ex bestie may have also unfriended me without saying after she got into a relationship and i just realised our friendship had been toxic from day one

itsmeee · Answer

Let's see how we can try to fix this

itsmeee · Answer

Tell me honestly, do you think you're living for yourself?

spiritualstripper · Answer

sure I would feel great with any kind of help you know

spiritualstripper · Answer

living for myself... not really

itsmeee · Answer

expected

spiritualstripper · Answer

maybe 20% for myself

itsmeee · Answer

You'll find millions of solutions on the internet

itsmeee · Answer

but I'll tell you the real secret

spiritualstripper · Answer

I'm just a 17 year old to be and me being a depressed teen is so cliche and I'm hating it

itsmeee · Answer

I know you're trying to find ways to deal with your life and stuff because I've been through the same, and kind of going through it even now

spiritualstripper · Answer

go ahead

itsmeee · Answer

Guess what, I'm 17 to be too!

spiritualstripper · Answer

I wish I was a bit stronger than my original self you know... maybe at least as much as u

spiritualstripper · Answer

woah cool... ig I just found a new buddy then

itsmeee · Answer

But I realized just recently, it depends on how we take things, nothing else. literally nothing else. then I decided just a day before I'll never cry. and I'll live for myself, no one else. guess what, I haven't cried even once since them

spiritualstripper · Answer

I don't think I'll be able to do that.. but I'll try changing things...

itsmeee · Answer

So I don't know how, but this promise I made myself, I wrote it down, set it as my wallpaper, posted it here on this platform, and literally jotted it down everywhere. so that I remind myself. that I've made a promise. to myself. and you can break any promise. but that one promise you make to yourself, no matter how emotionally weak u r, you cannot break it.

spiritualstripper · Answer

how much ever I try it's just the fragile me in the end... but like u said I've never lived for myself... I need to start doing that

itsmeee · Answer

you can, because I never thought I could do this, but I really think I'm improving.

spiritualstripper · Answer

you're doing a wonderful job then.. I'll learn to do that

itsmeee · Answer

change is slow, it takes time. but this change needs only that one push. then it keeps getting better. see, when you start seeing 1% things more positively, your mind will assume that you are recently experiencing positivity more than before. Then it'll start thinking positive by itself. and you'll see 1% even more positive. and the cycle keeps going. so you see, just one step. the start. the promise.

spiritualstripper · Answer

thanks a lot @itsmeee... what u did actually made me feel better... 💕I hope we can be friends in future

itsmeee · Answer

why future, let's do it now :)

itsmeee · Answer

you're too similar to me anyways

spiritualstripper · Answer

yeah that's true but if something negative happens, even if a negligible things I chicken out

itsmeee · Answer

I see myself in u

spiritualstripper · Answer

💞call me sam

spiritualstripper · Answer

do u use social media? well ur 16 so obviously u must be... but just asking

itsmeee · Answer

that's what we're trying to neglect, try to think of it like this, that the negative only affects you, your life, so it's upto you how you take it. if you chicken out, you're involving the rest of the world. the world says its negative, and you believe it is

itsmeee · Answer

not really, I'm currently studying for an exam, so no social media rn :(

spiritualstripper · Answer

yeah... I need to stop taking others opinions too seriously firstly

itsmeee · Answer

Okay Sam, well, I don't have a short name but you can call me Gauri 😅

spiritualstripper · Answer

oh what are studying for? please dont tell me neet Or jee

itsmeee · Answer

Yeah lol jee

spiritualstripper · Answer

ugh u too huh... well I'm glad my papa didn't force me into those

itsmeee · Answer

don't get me wrong, I'm not forced

spiritualstripper · Answer

that's fine then... I said that because I don't fidn many studying for neet Or jee without being forced... sry if what I said was wrong

itsmeee · Answer

what are your plans anyways

spiritualstripper · Answer

well... I want to try out forensic science

itsmeee · Answer

no lol it's fine, and it's also true

itsmeee · Answer

ohh cool

itsmeee · Answer

so you're preparing for something or applying somewhere?

spiritualstripper · Answer

not rn... I'm not sure what i need to prepare for before my ug so just letting things go on its own

itsmeee · Answer

ohh okay

spiritualstripper · Answer

applied for toefl n ielts in case I move abroad for further edu

itsmeee · Answer

yeah great, I have those as options too if in case I need to, but if I don't, I'll apply in future anyways for pg

spiritualstripper · Answer

ig you'll need to prepare for ur jee mains... I don't want to bother u anymore... thank you gauri for time 😊 idk how I can contact you next time but we will okay?

spiritualstripper · Answer

oh okayy cool

itsmeee · Answer

it's not a problem, I'm glad I could help you! yeah we will, I guess the only contact we have currently is this platform, so yeah 😅

spiritualstripper · Answer

yeah... that's okay we'll talk someday see ya friend 👋

itsmeee · Answer

See ya too, Sam! byeee <3

hello

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help me please