no he stated this when he was working far from home like we are south african now he's working at Botswana 🇧🇼
farshy756
has he ever made you feel like you should be grateful, he is with you?
ntombho
yes
farshy756
has he been distant from you since he started working far?
ntombho
yes but I'm with him but he come home with some lip sticks on his clothes and even in his musk that he comes home's wearing
farshy756
do you think maybe he is cheating on you?
ntombho
I know that he's cheating that I'm very sho of it
farshy756
since when you know this?
ntombho
last year June
farshy756
why are you still in this situation when you know he is cheating on you?
ntombho
I love him
farshy756
but he is emotionally abusing you?
ntombho
yes,because the way he's talking to me is like he wants to agree with everything he's saying
farshy756
so, he oversteps your boundaries? have you told him not to?
ntombho
I have tried so many times because even his girlfriend she is insulting me always so I don't know what to do anymore
farshy756
do you have any children?
ntombho
yes we have 2 boys
farshy756
I would suggest you to divorce your husband but you love him, I understand it's difficult for you to let go of someone who gave you so much to remember but you have to leave him, for yourself, you don't want to be in a relationship where you are abused and used.
ntombho
I've been trying to do so many times,now I'm stuck I don't know a way forward
farshy756
what is the reason that you're feeling stuck?
ntombho
I don't know whether I should go or stay
farshy756
you should go
ntombho
I don't if will I be able to love again cause I've lost interest in man my mind says if u go will u be able to find someone who's better or worse
farshy756
it's normal to feel that when ending a relationship but this feeling remains just for a couple of time, but if you don't take yourself out of this relationship you will regret forever.
ntombho
on Wednesday I'm going back home so I will try to sort myself out
farshy756
all the best, you will get better soon and I know you will take the best decision for yourself.
ntombho
thank you,and thank you for your time and for speaking to me