why is it that only good people suffer more?

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iamamess777 · Answer

I am not good yet I suffer too. isn't suffering the price you pay to exist in this world

Recovering_babe · Answer

because they let the bad ones get away with bad things done to them.... Start holding people accountable for the sh*t they do to you!

cautiouscockatoo2 · Answer

because they're pure hearted and evil hearted also suffers in the course time of karma

Recovering_babe · Answer

recognize the red flags in someone's behavior before it becomes a pattern. don't wait till someone hurts you again and again to realize you're being treated badly.

unhappygirl · Answer

I truly believe in karma. but I have seen this. with my friends as well. the ones who are good are either going through a heartbreak, loss in career, money issues, and even divorce. the ones who never cared are living a stable life.

unhappygirl · Answer

@recovering_babe that's where I went wrong. I ignored the red flags because I was too much in love.

Recovering_babe · Answer

believe me they ain't stable. they just know how to mask the bad things and make it look like they're happy and stable

arjun0813 · Answer

because we expect the same efforts that we do for others

unhappygirl · Answer

I guess we all suffer.  either from a heartbreak or loss of a loved one or financially or in any other way. the people with good hearts just feel more.

Recovering_babe · Answer

yes. be true to what you're feeling. and pay attention to how you feel after spending time with people... do, you feel good? or burdened? or hurt? or used? or abused(emotionally)? Pay attention to all this.. and it'll prevent you from alot of suffering!

unhappygirl · Answer

@recovering_babe you are right.

Recovering_babe · Answer

finally found the answer you were searching for?!

unhappygirl · Answer

yes found the answer. but you must also know the pain we feel doesn't go so easily. it takes time I guess. or maybe the pain doesn't go away. we just get used to live with that

Recovering_babe · Answer

yes sweetie... the pain always stays... and that feeling of being defeated after doing everything right is simply horrible... believe me I've been through it more than once! what I'm trying to tell you is that it doesn't always have to be this way.. a good person can see flags, put up boundaries and prevent getting hurt. and yes.. whatever has happened before cannot be changed. but you can save yourself now. there's always hope🤍

unhappygirl · Answer

hope is what keeps us going. day by day. second by second. but tbh. there are moments when there is no hope left

Recovering_babe · Answer

girl.... who hurt you?

unhappygirl · Answer

I got cheated and then left with the excuse that we're not compatible after a 3 year long relationship.

Recovering_babe · Answer

you lost someone who cheated on you? and left so bluntly that it shows he doesn't care for you??

unhappygirl · Answer

yes he didn't. but what hurts is that I invested so much into this relationship

Recovering_babe · Answer

yeahhh... and looks like he lost someone who was invested, cared for him and was ready to even let go of his worst mistake!!

unhappygirl · Answer

n yet he is carefree while here I am suffering from constant anxiety, morning panic attacks, not knowing how to move further, with no energy or will to do anything

Recovering_babe · Answer

that's understandable.. you're having a tough time because it meant alot to you... now just read my last two comments about loss... re-evaluate what you lost and what he lost and tell me who's actually at loss here?

unhappygirl · Answer

he is more at loss but he doesn't seem to realize it

Recovering_babe · Answer

let him be girl.... let's talk about you... do you think you're at loss?

unhappygirl · Answer

not exactly.. apart from the time, money and energy wasted. but yeah I have lost my hopes

Recovering_babe · Answer

yes.. those are valid losses. and can't be repaired. but in terms of person and love, you ain't at loss girl. and he left.. let me go out of a limb and say it's like the trash taking itself out... less dirty work for you! cut your losses(energy spent) and remind yourself that you gained insight. as for hope.. remember that you're full of love it just takes one person to see. untill that.. stay strong!!

unhappygirl · Answer

I am trying to. but this concept of true love or soul mate. is it really valid?

Recovering_babe · Answer

love / connection... bohot easily ho jaata hai (due to initial attraction) and that doesn't even matter. what matters is what both of them are doing to keep it. efforts matter. intentions matter. respect matter. it's a lot of work. and has to be both way. one way na ho sakta... and if it's both way.. you can go ahead and call it true love Or soulmate!

unhappygirl · Answer

yes. this time I'm gonna keep this in mind and not put my efforts where they aren't being reciprocated. agli baar bhot smjhke

Recovering_babe · Answer

hope you're feeling better now...

unhappygirl · Answer

absolutely.  thank you so much

Recovering_babe · Answer

The pleasure is all mine!!

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