for few weeks to a month is okay..... but more than that it depends..

thinking for 6 months brk

any specific reason?

try to enjoy your own company

I still haven't reached the heights I wanted to in my career. I had a lot of ambitions, I tried a lot but my efforts failed because I was cheated and finally I gave up on it all. But those who cheated and teased me make a lot of progress, I don't go looking for anything about them but my friends share all their informations with me, I told them many times that I don't want to know anything about them and they still do like this. I feel like am a big failure. my mind tells me to take break from everyone for a few months is good.

in that case, u can surely distance urself from them.... utilize these 6 months properly and become the person u wanted to... try to journaling too... it will help

I thought I might work again to get revenge on them, but I felt that it would not succeed

what kind of revenge? if it consist of becoming a better person of urself and achieving ur goals, then go ahead, make them jealous!!

But they don't even deserve my revenge.

huh! it's not abt revenge... it's more abt utilising ur time for YOURSELF🙄

By forgiving them for everything, I want to get in to the point where their actions don't affect my life.

I want to strive for my goals after reaching a state where the actions of others cannot affect my life in any way.

I want to achieve my goals without informing anyone

there will be always someone who's going to defy u at some or every step.... some will affect u, some will not . don't think that there will be always 100% clarity, positivity and peacefulness or ur mind will reach that stage where no one's words will no longer matter....

I want to write all my things in a diary but there is no privacy in my house and my sister has a habit of reading my diary.

meanwhile waiting for the moment... it will be too late

diary - just write down ur goals and smaller check points u need to reach in order to reach ur desire position.

Haven't I told you about the toxic relationship I had?

yeap, I remember

As you said I cut off all contact with her.

how's ur life going then?

Now when she calls me I don't pick up and I don't replied to her messages.

it's been 2 weeks

keep up this streak!

At first it felt so hard & empty

how do u feel now?

I had too much temptation and controlled it all.

temptation to accept her call ?

Now I really feel like I have no one there for me

yeah

do u think if u went through the deal... u would be happy anytime soon?

I know she's not sincere with me either, but I feel so alone right now.

i understand that this loneliness is better than being with her

being alone vs in a turmoil of toxicity and guilt...., what will u choose?

being alone

After I started ignoring her, the number of calls from her dropped significantly

it's just been 2 week, there's a long way to go...., and there will be ups and downs in the way - healing is not a linear process,start doing things what u always wanted to... pursue hobbies and explore.. . and keep urself engaged

I have never been silent to her for more than two days

so that's a progress... isn't it?

I have left it with my heart and there will never be a return to it

yeah

leave ur poor heart alone..yh? heart is just a pumping organ, don't blame it for the hormones secreted by ur pituitary gland (brain) .

Idk you believe it or not that now you are the only friend I have & you are a good mental support for me.

i have Left it with my brain too

thanks for being there

anytime! I'm glad that you find my advises useful tho!

thanks & stay blessed 😊

abt that journaling thing u can write it down using metaphors and poems or stories.... in a physical diary, or on ur device... by writing things get a bit easier.

i ll try that too 🤝