for few weeks to a month is okay..... but more than that it depends..
deep_thinker
1
thinking for 6 months brk
skylar
1
any specific reason?
shrishti_
1
try to enjoy your own company
deep_thinker
1
I still haven't reached the heights I wanted to in my career. I had a lot of ambitions, I tried a lot but my efforts failed because I was cheated and finally I gave up on it all. But those who cheated and teased me make a lot of progress, I don't go looking for anything about them but my friends share all their informations with me, I told them many times that I don't want to know anything about them and they still do like this. I feel like am a big failure. my mind tells me to take break from everyone for a few months is good.
skylar
in that case, u can surely distance urself from them.... utilize these 6 months properly and become the person u wanted to... try to journaling too... it will help
deep_thinker
I thought I might work again to get revenge on them, but I felt that it would not succeed
skylar
what kind of revenge? if it consist of becoming a better person of urself and achieving ur goals, then go ahead, make them jealous!!
deep_thinker
But they don't even deserve my revenge.
skylar
huh! it's not abt revenge... it's more abt utilising ur time for YOURSELF🙄
deep_thinker
1
By forgiving them for everything, I want to get in to the point where their actions don't affect my life.
deep_thinker
1
I want to strive for my goals after reaching a state where the actions of others cannot affect my life in any way.
deep_thinker
1
I want to achieve my goals without informing anyone
skylar
1
there will be always someone who's going to defy u at some or every step.... some will affect u, some will not . don't think that there will be always 100% clarity, positivity and peacefulness or ur mind will reach that stage where no one's words will no longer matter....
deep_thinker
1
I want to write all my things in a diary but there is no privacy in my house and my sister has a habit of reading my diary.
skylar
1
meanwhile waiting for the moment... it will be too late
skylar
1
diary - just write down ur goals and smaller check points u need to reach in order to reach ur desire position.
deep_thinker
1
Haven't I told you about the toxic relationship I had?
skylar
yeap, I remember
deep_thinker
1
As you said I cut off all contact with her.
skylar
how's ur life going then?
deep_thinker
1
Now when she calls me I don't pick up and I don't replied to her messages.
deep_thinker
1
it's been 2 weeks
skylar
keep up this streak!
deep_thinker
1
At first it felt so hard & empty
skylar
how do u feel now?
deep_thinker
I had too much temptation and controlled it all.
skylar
temptation to accept her call ?
deep_thinker
Now I really feel like I have no one there for me
deep_thinker
yeah
skylar
do u think if u went through the deal... u would be happy anytime soon?
deep_thinker
1
I know she's not sincere with me either, but I feel so alone right now.
deep_thinker
1
i understand that this loneliness is better than being with her
skylar
being alone vs in a turmoil of toxicity and guilt...., what will u choose?
deep_thinker
1
being alone
deep_thinker
1
After I started ignoring her, the number of calls from her dropped significantly
skylar
1
it's just been 2 week, there's a long way to go...., and there will be ups and downs in the way - healing is not a linear process,start doing things what u always wanted to... pursue hobbies and explore.. . and keep urself engaged
deep_thinker
I have never been silent to her for more than two days
skylar
1
so that's a progress... isn't it?
deep_thinker
1
I have left it with my heart and there will never be a return to it
deep_thinker
1
yeah
skylar
1
leave ur poor heart alone..yh? heart is just a pumping organ, don't blame it for the hormones secreted by ur pituitary gland (brain) .
deep_thinker
1
Idk you believe it or not that now you are the only friend I have & you are a good mental support for me.
deep_thinker
1
i have Left it with my brain too
deep_thinker
1
thanks for being there
skylar
1
anytime! I'm glad that you find my advises useful tho!
deep_thinker
1
thanks & stay blessed 😊
skylar
1
abt that journaling thing u can write it down using metaphors and poems or stories.... in a physical diary, or on ur device... by writing things get a bit easier.