if the anwer was that easy i would have probably forgotten him long back
Roadster
Give urself a little time to come out from ur past. I know it's not easy, but we have to do difficult things in life to get the change. Remember he js ur ex for a certain reason. Otherwise he wud be in ur life ryt now. Share your pain here girl. we r there to listen.
Shreya24
getting insanely addicted to check him on whatsapp
bearwiththickhead
what answer?
Shreya24
answer to @shivang question's why not
bearwiththickhead
i miss her coz she was so godddddamn sympathetic and probably cared to give a f
shivang
đđ don't mind me I will just observe your conversation.
shivang
to answer that I need to know your whole story
shivang
so please share
bearwiththickhead
but you know she was also kinda controlling, unsuppotive and sometimes big sus
Shreya24
gotcha @bearwiththickhead ..thanks that help
bearwiththickhead
you should say something about that person who made you feel like shix
shivang
ok I am out, sorry miss@sherya24
Shreya24
okay even if get out over that shit guy i still not ready to go for arrange marriage i mean if love doesn't work then how arrange would settle
uralienfriend
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u won't forget if u keep holding on to him allow ur self to be open to new opportunities takes time but creating new memories may help surpress the old ones
bearwiththickhead
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it's the culture, you can't fight the culture, but making it most favourable for you is something you can do.
uralienfriend
arrange would work untill u love the person u may do it now but might be a problem later
bearwiththickhead
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maybe ask parents to date the guy before marriage, let them know it's youre lifetime of happiness, for half a century of marriage, you can spend atleast half an year dating, sounds logical to me.
bearwiththickhead
Southern Asia, do you need more specific answer? , where are you from.
Shreya24
Southern Asia
Shreya24
ya i mean if you want to
bearwiththickhead
okay sure, answer my question in a way you want to know mine, I'll know, sounds good?
Roadster
Forgetting someone u really love is not possible. But u know time makes u comfortable with his absence. When it comes to arrange marriage, I know it's scary. But trust me girl, if it's written in ur destiny, it will definitely work out to b good. Its scary bcz u wont b aware of the other person. Buy try to spend time with him before marrying and if u don't get any vibes, inform ur parents. I know me just saying will never work unless ur heart accepts it. Ur ex is probably very happy ryt now with some1 else. He did not even care about u. If he really wanted u, his efforts wud speak. one sided love will always be in pain. Once u accept it na, no one can stop u.
Shreya24
india mr.thickhead
bearwiththickhead
yeah same, India. whyd you ask tho, i wanna know
Shreya24
the way you written.."its the culture.." sorry for being stereotype but that sound familiar
bearwiththickhead
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alright, thats a fact and if you want to know, there are 10 types of marriage ceremonies in Indian Culture, all of them are practiced in India and some of them are done very discreetly because of their nature of existence. And you can trust me when i say this, Arrange is not the scariest one. You can Google 10 types of Marriage in Indian Culture.
Shreya24
thanks@Roadster Ur ex is probably very happy with someone else that line kinda hurt but else is fine..it feels gross urgh..but thanks anyway
Shreya24
yea sometimes your prejudiced mind can be the most scariest over all the issue ...esp when u born in a very inconducive environment..
Shreya24
my father is very dominating... and mother submissive and yielding expect me to be the same they see me as a liability they dont have the courage to stand by me if i dont like the family or the guy ....you that prejudice build in my mind that i may end up losing myself just like my mother one day
uralienfriend
yeah just feels like a cage no freedom nothing restrictions everywhere for everything
uralienfriend
well maybe u are the one who will end this story no more of past u r the one who will began a new future
bearwiththickhead
that sounds horrible but i can see the similarity, are you educated and job ready?
bearwiththickhead
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that was harsh, stay strong, you'll find a solution