you need to start setting boundaries for yourself and say 'no' when you don't want to do something someone asked you to do.
clarke34
hii farshy can i control my overthinking regarding whenever im in convsrsation with other person even when convwrsation is going smooth i inside had phobia that what if something goes wrong whether its my mistake or not i just keep remembering that incident too many times in my mind until i freak out
clarke34
i know i ahouldnt be thinking that much about a particular conversation with other person that happened but i think in my mind what if i could have talked better
clarke34
sorry for asking but maybe u also had encountered something like that and if u wnat to share
farshy756
l also analyse my previous conversations when I am along and think how I can share my feelings because it's really difficult for me to share my views thinking what the other person's reaction maybe.
clarke34
yess exactly is this normal
farshy756
it is and it has helped me to learn form my previous conversations and make better conversation in future.
clarke34
😀😀😀
farshy756
but from what you told me, I think you overanalyze the conversations and are afraid of letting your thoughts out.
clarke34
ohh now u understand me rightt yess thats my issue
farshy756
do you not tell people what you have in your mind for the fear of what they might think, irrespective of how close you are to them? do you not trust people with your thoughts and feelings?
clarke34
i think i have told you that i have bad experiences in past with bad people so i couldnt find any way better than a shell around me so my emotions are protected and yess you are right
clarke34
i get attched to people i like so i fear of any disturbance that may occur
clarke34
heyy are u there
clarke34
thanks
farshy756
1) you need to get your thoughts out but writing them, 2) try not be idle like do something to distract yourself when you find yourself overanalyze any conversation, 3) practice meditation or mindfulness each day to help with thought control, 4) work on your trust issues by talking to a therapist, 5) and remember during a conversation when you start to overanalyze it, try to not answer the questions you have in mind like how can I make this better etc.
farshy756
sorry was writing this, so couldn't reply.
clarke34
why i get attached to people so quickly
clarke34
this caring attitude is creating troubles
clarke34
well thanks 😢
farshy756
you don't have to stop your caring altitude just give it to the right person who will return it with the same.
farshy756
were you insecure about your relationship with the people you know?
clarke34
not insecure but i get betrayal oftenly
farshy756
maybe that's why you get attached to people so easily
farshy756
you have had a lot of bad experiences in your relations and this is why maybe when you meet new people, you become a people pleaser and some disgusting people take advantage of your this caring altitude.
clarke34
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clarke34
yes yess u r absolutely right
clarke34
the way you undersatood my situation is beyond my expectation really u got my point
farshy756
don't worry, you can get better soon and what those disgusting people did to you was wrong, you were hurt and they gave you more pain when you don't deserve.
clarke34
you think i have been affected badly beacause i was very strong in my earlier days but now my confidence shrunked and i will find a way to get myself back
clarke34
i mentioned my problem and u listened me now i feel that there are good people still present
farshy756
all the best to you for your journey of regaining yourself back and your are wonderful person, It was nice to talk to you.
