Don't let that stop you from achieving those dreams. You have a lot to reach only if you start believing in yourself. Stop self-sabotage.
u could improve ur communication skills....u should try going for classes outside.... it will help u to make friends and get better in communicating if u make efforts to do so
what makes you say that? you are going through some kind of deficiency. what do you want the most right now?
deficiency means ok,i feel really less energetic
i wont even eat food ,
properly lost appetite
ok i try
yeah i had self sabotage thoughts too much
having food is a must....cause if u skip your meals u could suffer from many health problems..... like I got thyroid just by not having my meals properly...... so u should not skip them......instead go for walk cycling or any activity that would stimulate ur hunger....so try to have meals properly and on time
i guess i lost my appetite due to thyroid too,because my mom had thyroid , i dont identify my exact problem and reason for my lack of motivation in life,but i am anyways sabotaging myself
u should get urself checked then...cause all these things are caused by thyroid......it just increases the mental pressure
first u should know yourself more..... u should know ur thoughts and beliefs and then stay strong on them.... cause everyones built different and everyone has their own way of thinking and living....so instead of blaming urself just know urself and accept thats how u are
you're sabotaging yourself, tell us why?
what has gone wrong?
if you don't want to share, that's fine
but if you can share, you should
ofcourse i have to check for thyroid then
cause i have extreme mental pressure when i wake up
all the day
Basically, self-sabotage stems from low self-esteem. I know that because I, too, tend to sabotage myself. That's why, nobitafromdoraemon, it's okay to feel that way. What's not okay is forever tolerating it. You are only harming yourself.
what do you do for work?
i am feeling lonely , nothing comes in my mind to speak , if i try to communicate with people ,it is just purpose related , but character is everything right.i am socially anxious too , i just freaking get anxious to socially and to get for help
i am a student , graduating computer science
Please know that posting here, asking for help is a big start. I am proud of you. You did well.
do you love what you do?
thanks, no i love to do , but i lack interest and motivation , and i have negative thoughts to much about myself and my outcomes whatever i love to do
how can you love something and not be interested in it? you sound confused
please be clear with whatever you're struggling with, otherwise it no one will be able to help you and you will certainly waste a lot of time
i am interested in music gaming then i am interestet outgo socializing have friends like others , but i lack energy or think too much to have it , or how can i say , i feel like everybody is fake to me except my mom and brother
how are you sure your mom and brother are not faking you? do you have genuine reasons to believe that Or you believe that out of love for them? if you have genuine reasons, share them.
if you only say that because you want them to love you, try doing what you love to do and see their reaction
u have got nice hobbies..... u should not bother about people..... when u start to focus on yourself everythings gonna be fine..... u should really try for some activities which involves communicating and all..... and u surely get urself checked up..... cause I too felt like this and since I am on medications for my thyroid. I feel a lot better and more energetic from before .... and if u have anything u wanna talk about like the things that bother u . u should immediately do that... talk to anyone here or around u
cause my mom and bro know i am like child but people misunderstand me being quiet ,even with them i feel lonely too much in the morning itself too ,thats why i waked up early feeling pressured in my head too much and i have internal stress to much and i shared it , i have an inner critic ,negative self talk that stops my everything
you sound like a child what don't wants to grow up
life is not easy
ok what should i do to grow
it is in fact hard and from what I you are only complaining because you have procrastination problem, you need to work, start acting on your hobbies otherwise it's only going to get tough.
yeah i have procastination problem
nobody can help with that for free
you need to visit a doctor and tell them what you just stated
i should take a step forward,ok
looks like you needed clarity
I am glad I could help
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clarity means what bro ,mental clarity ?
yes, in this case
mental clarity,to seek therapist and talk about what bro?
if u feel like..... u alone are not able to cope up with it..... then u can go to a councellor
ok,i feel emotional stress too much sometimes so i buzz out what i thought in this
ur college must have a councelling cell... or something.... u could go there and get help
i imagined it now and i remain silent in that situation to without explaining what the problem is
yeah .... u should speak out....cause when u don't tell what's wrong with how would the other know
my problem is i am being so silent
either a psychologist or a psychiatrist
where are you from?
yeah that's not good being silent .... u should talk about how u feeling lately with ur mom or ur brother ..... and if there's a councellor in ur college then that is the best choice
i am from tamil nadu
it won't be more than ₹500 to book an hour long session with a doctor. Meet with em and see what they have to say
ok i tell with my parents ,my dad hurted me by using abusive words
oh man, what happened
my dad used to hurt me by using abusive words in front of public too,he dont even know whether it would hurt me or sometimes people and my friends do hurt me ,🙂 but i hide my pain
you were innocent and had nothing to do with how he felt?
because i am not socializing , i am not cleaning my house ,i am not maintaing the garden,ok but he didnt understand my needs, but he can only expect what he needs from me
sometimes i ask something from him ,he didnt care about it , but he gives priority to third person than me
every morning i wake up i have powerful thoughts to guide me
like i should be archieve something great
you're dependant on him, why do you want him to respect you? he won't because then you will depend more on him. instead, try making money yourself, try fulfilling your own needs, caring for yourself is much better than letting someone else do that.