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what happened to you how are u feeling

do u wanna talk.?

how to deal with guilt like i had a thought but after that thought i feel very guilty

i have decided not think about that incident but it just come in my mind and i feel very guilty and bad about it

depends what that guilt is but u may not feel comfortable to tell that here

yeah

you can deal with guilt by acknowledging it, see understand that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes and it's normal to feel guilty even if the situation has passed away a long time ago.

i don't want to think about it

it's not about me but it's about my family and i have decided what ever happened is happened and I'm not going to think about it but if my mom don't treat me right Many times. like differencet between me and my brother those thoughts come and it's makes me feel guilty

I'm not a bad person i feel very bed from insides when those thoughts come

you can't control your thoughts, you have many of them throughout the day, both positive and negative, you cannot delete a memory, whether it is bad or good, so it's better to just better to just let those thoughts come and go, and if you can't let go of the thought, just tell yourself that whatever happened that time was past, now you are a more mature person and you don't have to feel guilty.

yeah thanks @ farshy

you know my biggest enemy is my mind

i just hate my mind

thank you everyone

if u hate ur mind and hate ur thoughts then make urself busy....this situation happened with me too.... whenever i am sitting doing these thoughts cones but whenever i am busy it doesn't

I understand, sometimes the thing standing between you and your happiness is your thoughts and feelings, you can't let go of them, they will always be there, you can just learn to not get affected by your thoughts and feelings

I'll try

anytime 😊@guilty, hope you get better soon.

you know you guys are like friends not strangers. cause in this world friend become strangers at one point of time.

@farshy learning to not to get affected by one's own thoughts require time.....i mean really a long time....well i am saying this for me....it took long time for me

so I'm happy to be here i get that comfort that I want in my bad time .

actually i haven't even figured it out completely :(

but you learned to not affected by them right? @zesty

glad to hear that @guiltystork0

yeah

well the answer is neither yes nor no

but @ farshy OCD thoughts still scared like hell

even i try to be ok with thoughts many times i get very bad anxiety

@guilty, you should try to be kind and patient with yourself.

yeah

first u need to figure the root of ur negetive thoughts

running away from them won't work

ik it's easier to say but hard to do

you know if i know you guys like person to person i would loved to be friends with you guys @zesty and @farshy

@ zesty I'm dealing with OCD since 2 and half years

and it's very hard to be live with like i smile infront of people but I know at that time what i go through from inside

we are here u can talk with us here

haven't u consulted a doctor?

its kinda hard tho yk 😕 knowing that everyone just hates you just sucks

@guilty, everyone once in their lifetime experiences intrusive thoughts and their are plenty of ways you can combat them in long term, 1) practice mindfulness, it helps all lot with intrusive thoughts and thoughts controlling, 2) do plenty of excercise, your physical and mental health are connected together, if you take care of one, the other will automatically start to improve, 3) get proper sleep, if you're not sleeping enough, 4) whenever you have anxiety, reassure yourself about the situation you are in, that you will get through it.

if none of this helps then you should consult a psychiatrist.

on i want to consult a doctor once I'll financially independent

u should try what farshy said👍

and @ zesty that's why i don't want to get out of my home because I'm scared to go out side. it not like i lock my in a room. i do get out side of my house. but even it's come to job and thinks like that I'm very scared

yeah

I'll try @ farshy thanks for helping me

u get scared because of ur thoughts?

anytime 😊@guilty, hope you get better soon.

yeah

i feel safe in my house

ik what u mean but u have do it

take small steps at a time

yeah, you can just excercise 10min, it's enough for day one. don't take stress.

i have to go to job from Monday

but i just don't feel like doing and going there

i don't know what I'll do in my life

try to socialize there

I'm scared @zesty i don't know what will happen in my life

what is going to do in my life

you will do something great@guilty, just enjoy your weekend and let go of all the stress, I know easier said than done, but getting your life back in control is never easy, you will face a lot a problems, but remember, we are always here for you and you can always share whatever issue going through here, don't put all the burden on yourself.

do u have a goal in ur life?

i just want to start something that I own you know some thing on my own that's my goal

hope so @ Farshy

then why are u saying that what are you going to do in ur life?

u have a goal....work hard to execute it

that's what u r going to do in ur Life :)

because my parents thinks job is the best and nothing like doing a job you know middle class family

do a job become financially independent then do what u want

i know the importance of money as coming from middle class back ground but i want to make it some thing big

@zesty after like 3 or 4 year they'll get me married after that I'll don't have time to do anything

I'm literally crying right now

I'm already 21 and will turn 22 in November

because if I'll join this job my parents will not allow me to live this job easily. as this person whom I'm going to work for he wants some one permanent like for long time

does this job pays well?

have talk with ur parents??

they just says they'll give me 8500 that's all. i work whole day in return i get just 8500 in the end of the month

i just had an argument with my parents. they were like i just don't want to do nothing.get out side of home you'll feel better.i understand but i don't know why i just don't feel like going out for real

have tried looking for other jobs?

i just want to say this that the whole day i work for them and in return i just get 8500. so then why don't i work for myself.and find a part time job to help a little

i did but my bad luck i didn't get jobs every body wants experience

and I'm still studying

ig then u should do part time job

u should to ur parents about this

I'm tried zesty i don't want to fight or argue anymore with them they'll never gonna understand

ik that feeling....it happens with me too

they are still arguing with me scolding me I'm literally tired. they are saying everything happens bad with me because I'm like this. i don't know how I'm and how to change myself

can u do part time job?

yes