There's probably a reason why you guys feel this way.... I suggest that you guys try seeing a psychologist and see why you're feeling this way. If it's something that happend in the past then both of you are still holding grudges. Don't hold on to it forgive her not for her but for you. I'm sure you don't wanna be like this, try talking to her about it..... Fix your relationship with her, I promise you, you will not regret it.