Abusive relationship

Question

I have been in relationship with a guy for past 3yrs I used to do this for him because if I don't do them it will end in a big fight. now he is threatening me. I don't know what to do. I explained the situation to him whenever I explain him he will be very patient to listen them and his reaction will be totally opposite-  he will start yelling at me for asking for breakup. I'm totally helpless. what can I do?

ever · Answer

have faith in yourself and do what you want.

trustingZebra0 · Answer

what you used to do for him !! I don't get your question. please elaborate!!

DarkSwan710 · Answer

if doing things for him is not making you happy then there is no point. we need to happy first to make anyone else happy

pittyful · Answer

hey hi I'm in same situation like you, may be we can help each other

Rema · Answer

I want to be happy I try working on myself where I don't want him to be a part. I don't know how to make him understand I want to breakup with him. whenever I say so he patiently listens everything and starts scolding

pittyful · Answer

how was your relationship with him?

pittyful · Answer

relax there will be a way to end this! make him understand that this was abusive relationship

Rema · Answer

If I don't find a way he soo. he will definitely kill me make me commit suicide.

Rema · Answer

Is there any way I can get help from higher officials

pittyful · Answer

if anything is serious then 1st inform to your parents and then go to police! hope you will find a way to escape from him

pittyful · Answer

you look afraid can you share me your problem?

Rema · Answer

yes I want to

pittyful · Answer

ok relax and calm down share us your problem we may have any leads which make you free from him

Rema · Answer

initially I didn't know how he got my number he spoke very nicely we were just friends even after he propose me I said him this will not work but he kept forcing me but those were very kind words. our first meet was after an year of phone conversation. we were both very close to eachother he was trust worthy, he stopped drinking alcohol and so on. now the main issue is whenever we have fight he will ask me to make myself nude. if I don't do so then he will threaten me saying he will come to my home. now when I said him I hate all these and I want to breakup he is purposely drunk today and calling me continuously

Rema · Answer

my parents don't know any of these if they get to know then my life will turn upside down

pittyful · Answer

please get out off this relationship ASAP, this is literally serious 1st inform this to your parents or any trustworthy friends if you see situation getting worse! ik if you say to em it will end in other problem but please inform your parents like sya to em theres boy who's threatening if situation getting worse, Don't be afraid of him if you are don't show to him

Rema · Answer

my parents are strict they will never accept this. I don't have any friends to share this 😭

pittyful · Answer

ok dont say to your parents until situation get worse but please remain calm there will be situation for sure!

pittyful · Answer

make him hate you and make him to break up with you in which you will remain in safest side make some friends first spend some time with em or spend your time in something other than him, slowly move away from him one say he eventually will break up with you, and whenever he demand you for something please don't do that id you done one time it will repeat

Rema · Answer

ok i have uninstalled whatsapp now so that he will not call me today. since he is drunk now he didn't know how to call from any other source. for sure tmrw I will be screwed 1000 times for uninstalling whatsapp. I'm scared also scared if he will commit suicide. he keeps threatening me saying he will die without me

Rema · Answer

thanks for these words I don't know who you are but these words are much needed to me

pittyful · Answer

I'm sure that the scumbag like him would never suicide for love, he's just talk! please relax! I like to say you one thing don't be afraid of him

pittyful · Answer

I'm just male version of yourself who been through same situation like you did and regreted later

Rema · Answer

I know he really loved me. he has not cheated on me but repeated talks only on sex is what I didn't want. that's how we started fighting

Rema · Answer

I'm going through this for past 1 year.

pittyful · Answer

im in same dilemma you have and im still haven't found my ans the girl I loved truly loves me but she's treating me like a trash and after all she still says she will treat me like that

pittyful · Answer

I know how it will feels it will hell but we couldn't able to share this to anyone!

Rema · Answer

I hope you are fine now

pittyful · Answer

are you working woman?

pittyful · Answer

I'm not fine but I think eventually everything will end good

Rema · Answer

yes I'm

pittyful · Answer

cuz if you are working woman try to move far away form him like try work in other state

Rema · Answer

Everything will be fine one day

Rema · Answer

Ok i will try this one. I feel like changing my mob num if I do so is there any chance of home coming to my house to trouble me

pittyful · Answer

im a man so I do kinda know what other man think I can assure you 70% that he wouldn't show up in front of your house

Rema · Answer

Ok will change my number thank you so much.

pittyful · Answer

because drunkard scum like him wouldn't have a guts to do this things and in other way he did mistake but be safe, make some friends 1st they would have your back

needfulTruffle5 · Answer

where you from?

soggycornflakes · Answer

read about Narcissistic personality disorder and break the hell up with him.

Rema · Answer

can suicide be a solution to this?

Rema · Answer

all hopes to live are broken

Persias213 · Answer

@Rema what is happening now.

i am an immature person so don't judge me i am mental patient

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?