Afraid of commitment

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I'm talking to this really great guy right now. Our interest, ideals, and visions match completely. But, I cannot get myself to be in a relationship with him. It's not just about him, I've been running away from relationships all my life. Even serious friendships. Thinking about them sets off panic and extreme anxiety in me. My parents had an ugly divorce when I was younger so that might the reason. When I'm alone at night, I hate myself for being so damaged because this way no one will ever love me. My friends are getting married and here I can't even date.

grudgingClam2

2 Answers
s_chirps
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Hey, The truth is, relationships are a gamble but they're worth it anyway. You need to take care of your own mental health first though. Try to keep a journal and write down you every aspect of a relationship makes you feel or about your parents' divorce. It'll get easier for you once you know what your triggers are clearly.
chicOatmeal5
You should tell the guy you're dating your issues with commitment. If he's understanding enough, both of you could ease into it slowly. You'll have to challenge yourself to break the pattern. Don't feel bad for being the way you are. You didn't choose your trauma.