So I end up always calling him out for his actions, and because of that she is always calling MY attention for doing it. Back to the conversation, I started crying. She was sad and angry because I felt bad about the way she called me out. She said lots of things. She also complained about me getting quiet whenever I'm sad and that there's no way she will know what I'm feeling and think if I don't speak and that she's tired of this, because she doesn't know what to do anymore, and she was also crying, saying that she is tired for always having to try her best to maintain the harmony at home. That she feels like she can never do anything wrong, that she always have to be perfect (I feel the same way tho). I said to her that i don't wanna say anything because many time when I do, the situation gets worse and someone gets more hurt. She said that she was going crazy, because this kind of situation is always happening. She had a good day with her sisters and when she got back home I did this. We were both crying a lot. She also said that I was always like this with my brother since we were little, always... rejecting is not the right word, I forgot how to call it. But the problem is, he just live the way he wants, and because he doesn't listen too much to what my mom has to say, he just do what he wants. But I believe we can't keep shut and not telling people what they need to hear. Also, the bed is also mine, I have the right to complain. My brother doesn't clean his room, his bed is never made. he plays with our dog and goes directly to his bad full of fur and sleeps there like it's nothing for weeks if not months. My mom acts like we can't talk to him anymore about these things and like we should just accept some things. The thing is, if it's me doing some things, she will call me out. But with him is difficult.  It has always been like this, also about doing housework, clean the house... I feel like I can be called out but he can't because it's no use so we should stop and be silent. I feel like I'm the problem for always insisting and being sad over these things. Lots was said by my mom, and the sad thing is that this kind of situation is always happening throughout the years. Now I think that maybe, I should not talk, not complain, not show emotions and seem always  okay, so it doesn't trigger my mom. I've been so down lately. After today's episode I felt way worse. Also, just so you know, I have gone through medication and therapy before, and after the conversation, my mom said that I should consider going back to it.... I'm tired

hi

if u have gone trough therapy and medications then it means u have been facing challenges mentally and ur mother knows about it .... she would know how hard it would have been for u..... and maybe it just hurts her to see u quiet cause she thinks that u still are hurting by yourself.... she must stressed too thinking about it... that's why her worry just popped out in form of nagging and shouting.... so u must not take this to heart....and about your brother just let it be.... somethings need to be ignored....u should focus more on yourself cause people don't change if they are told to do something they'll change when they want to.....so just ignore some things that u feel like should be done