Hi, You say your brother is 14, then you have been through his age. May be you were not like him but at his age most of them get rebellous. Its better if you talk to him nd create a bond rather then beating him up. Thats going to make him moore stubborn. It will take time for you to get there and create than connection with him but it will happen. If you think you have a responsibility towards your younger brother then you are right, you do and thats by being patient with him and showing some understanding and love. Hitting him is not right. But first work on your anger issues, meditate. Your brother is at an age that he is not understanding, as u say he is at peak of puberty and his hormones are all over the place and now is the time you can get him to be a good person but for that you need go be an example for him. Control your anger and be calm these thgs he will learn from you

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I can understand that it must be really difficult to be handling all of it. Teenage years are like this only, children feel that they have to rebel in order to get things they want. He won’t understand what all you have been going through. Leaving everything wouldn’t be a good thing to do as a family. Your mom will be more stressed. And all of us needs a family support. Rather than having grudges and being harsh and rude towards him why don’t you make him sit with you and politely try to talk to him. Trh to explain your situation and ask him his concerns and try to make things work. Be polite and gentle towards him. The more physical punishment you will give him the more he will disrespect you.

And respect will eventually come. Now you are not giving him an option to respect. Respect is earned not forced

i completely understand you, but ive tried it few times and it has no effect on him. idk how to make him understand. i know by hitting him i will only make him more rebellous. seriously speaking, i dont wanna hurt him at all. i try to ignore it as much as i can, but he doesn't values me or something. i ended up the fight by saying, you arent my brother anymore, just go to hell and dont talk to me ever!!! he aint calm. i just really want him to be better version of me😔. The solutions you gave are indeed helpful.

Hey, he is your brother, you know him better than anyone. These hateful comments go to hell and not my brother ofcourse will not go down well with him. You want him to be better version of you, but its not what you want. Its what he want , he has to be better version of him and no one else. He has his own identity. Dont worry, you are mature than him you will get there

thanks for the support and answering to my incident. it is really helpful of you all ❤ i will surely make him sit and talk❤

Younger siblings tend to idealise their elder sibling a lot why don’t you show him to be an ideal version you want him to be like, he might observe you and try to behave in the way he sees you. Change starts first with ourselves. Be gentle towards him try to understand situations from his perspective as well. Ask him about his situation and be friends with him.

certainly mine doesnt idealise me as a future person!

Try to show him the other side of you. Be kind towards him. Befriend him. His perception will change.