anxious 😰

Question

hello is anyone here to listen . Feeling too much anxious , sadness , don't know what to do with all these situations ... my husband started drinking alcohol... as we are living far due to our job . He even doesn't pick my calls ... from 1 day .. am too much worried what to do . I can't even express my self to others

farshy756 · Answer

hi

Trojan005 · Answer

how long u been married

SY · Answer

2 yr

Trojan005 · Answer

so he started this recently

SY · Answer

from 1 yr

farshy756 · Answer

have you talked to him about this?

Trojan005 · Answer

did u ask why

SY · Answer

yes ... he started this from his fends group

SY · Answer

but all these things increases day by day

SY · Answer

and I think he is now addicted

SY · Answer

when I asked him he told ... I will left all these but he didn't ...

SY · Answer

I don't understand what to do with all these ...

farshy756 · Answer

you can take him to a psychiatrist

SY · Answer

I tried but he is not ready to go there ... he said  mai theek ho jaunga tum pareshan mtt ho ... us baad kuch time theek rahe and then started

farshy756 · Answer

do you know why he drinks alcohol? like is their any feeling he is suppressing within.

Vickey · Answer

Unke saath kuch din raho, yaa to aap chali jao ya unhe bula lo, saath rahogi to shayad kuch changes aaye

SY · Answer

yes he told me from past he was not doing good in his studies , family members always  ... provoked him after that he lost his father ... then after life is going good by GOD grace he found a job ... but when he got a job he alwas regret that he didn't do anything for his father

SY · Answer

yes jab hm sath hote hai to wo bilkul thik rehte hai ..wo unsb cheezzo ko hath v nhi lagate .. but mere waha se jate he wo wapas wahi karne lagte hai

Vickey · Answer

ye regret feel sabhi ko hota, But emotion pe Control karna hota hai, isliye unko aap hi smjha sakti ho

farshy756 · Answer

did he started drinking after his father's death?

Vickey · Answer

isliye unhe aapki jarurat hai, yaa to aap chali jao ya unhe bula lo, jo v possible hai use Karo, but jaldi me kyunki Alcohol ka addiction bahot khatarnak hota hai

SY · Answer

mai to bahut samjhati hu .. mujhe gussa v ata hai but Mai control karti hu .. lekin meri jab 2 din tk 3 tk baat v nhi hoti mujhe phir apne ap pr control nhi hota .. mai apne emotions ko kaise Handel Karu

Vickey · Answer

Nahi gussa mat karna, unhe abhi aapke support ki jarurat hai, isliye unhe help kijiye unpe gussa nahi

SY · Answer

ha Mai try kr rhi hu unko apne sath rakhne ka mai chahti hu unka transfer ho Jaye mere pass but avi 2, 3 months ka time lagega ... maine job quit karne ko v bola but wo nhi kr rhahe ... avi wo apni duty se suspend chal rahe hai due to alcohol is wajah se aur v jyada kr rhe hai

farshy756 · Answer

it's not your fault to feel these emotions, it's normal when we see someone we love ruining themselves and not trying to get better, now matter how much you try, you end up feeling frustrated and angry, as if all your efforts were not enough

Vickey · Answer

Aapke paas leave bacha hoga na, usko use karke aap chali jao unke paas

SY · Answer

ha Mai kal jaungi lekin ony for 2 days .... waha jaungi kal ka din to waise hi chala jayega kyuki wo drunk honge baat krne ka koi fayda hi nhi ..

farshy756 · Answer

what Vickey said is right, that you should support him but it cannot be denied that the situation is not in your hand, you have your job and he has his job, you either need to convince him for therapy or find a way to be with him physically.

Vickey · Answer

are koi nahi, bs aap unko support Karo, sab normal ho jayega

SY · Answer

yes I support him

SY · Answer

acha mujhe waha jakr kya kl wapas se samjhana chahiye ki tumhe Aisa nhi karna chahiye ye sb  ... ek hi cheez bolna batana bar bar ..he is also irritated

Vickey · Answer

Nahi bs unke paas jakar unhe acha feel karao, unke saath time expend karo, bs unhe baar baar ek hi baat ke liye mat bolo

SY · Answer

thik hai.. yahi karte hai .

Vickey · Answer

Haan or unko jitna ho sake support kijiye unhe aapki jarurat hai,

SY · Answer

ye problem bahut lambi chalne wali hai na ... mere  v  mind me bahut negative thoughts ate hai

farshy756 · Answer

chinta mat karo, sab thik hojaye ga, bas sabar se kaam lo, aur emotions ko control mein rakho, aap ye kar sakti ho, haar mat mano, kyu ki iss samay aap hi unki support ho

SY · Answer

ye sb cheeze maine unk ghar me unk bhai ko share ki thi ..but unhone v bahut samjhaya but ab wo v baat nhi krte ... mere alawa aur mummy k alawa unse ghr k members baat nhi krte ache se ... isliye Maine v unlogo se batana bnd kr diya ... aur agr Mai apne ghr me ye sb kuch share krti hu to mere mummy papa sbkuch khatm krne ko bol denge . I think . isliye Mai ye sb kuch apne andr rakh rakh k pareshan ho jati hu

SY · Answer

i will try my best .

farshy756 · Answer

mein samajh sakti hu aapke liye ye sab kitna mushkil hai, aap jaise bilkul akele ho aur aap ye sab andar rakh ke, apne emotions ko control karna bahut mushkil hai

SY · Answer

yes

farshy756 · Answer

all the best to you, I hope that your husband gets better soon and you both live a happy life 😊

SY · Answer

i wish n I want because I love him so much ... beside all these he is a good man bs ek hi ye kami sabkuch barbad kar rahi hai

SY · Answer

thanks to both of you .. thoda halka feel hua ...

Vickey · Answer

yeah sure, jab v share karna ho aap yaha msg kar Dena, and I hope ye sab jald solve ho jaye

SY · Answer

ok

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