Hey. I'm sorry you're going through this. Five years is a lot of time and the breakup must hurt; I cannot begin to imagine your pain. I really hope you are able to find the closure you need and deserve, and are able to let go of this pain. Sending you lots of love and prayers!

Loss of a loved one be it in the form of a death or a separation can be daunting. I'm not going to emphasise on that as you already know it and the above comments have touched on that topic. All I'd say from my personal experience is that I also went through a divorce recently, and I'd like you to believe me that it does get better one day. I wouldn't have believed this if I was in your place and I wasn't believing it either when my family and friends told me the same but today when I look back I realize they were right and I wish I had listened to them so at that moment I wouldn't have caused myself so much anxiety. I believe that we suffer twice in such cases. Firstly the situation is not a pleasant one and secondly we further make it bad by mourning over it too much. Healing is not in stages.. It doesn't follow a time line. Healing is messy, you do take 5 steps in front and someday one tiny God damn thing will remind you of the person and you'll see yourself gone back those steps which you had walked. But there will also be one fine day when you'll wake up and that same thing which triggered your pain will not trigger it as much. The intensity reduces. I used to cry miserably seeing my wedding albums earlier and I had endless questions in my mind and the essence of it was just emotions and memories but today when I look at it, it's just a folder of memories. There's a huge level of acceptance. It's just a fact that exists in my life and will always exist. We can't wash away our past but we can definitely decide how we wish to walk ahead. If he's going to move on so will you. There's nothing personal in here trust me. We humans naturally want happiness. We rush to places and people which we think will make us happy. He will rush to find his and you should rush to find yours. Big hug to you babe. You will get through this. All of us do. We are much stronger than we think. And we owe a lot to our bodies and soul which nourishes us and helps us heal. So cheer up now bring a smile on your face and go and cherish and look after the one person who you have a relationship of a lifetime! Yourself, my love.

Wosani I am terribly sorry to hear this. Break ups are extremely painful. Not many acknowledge the pain it brings. Firstly, please know that healing from a broken relationship is a process. While painful, this shall pass. So hang in there. It's very courageous of you to cut all contact and maintain that. You can help the process of healing by doing some of these things: 1. Surround yourself with friends and family who are supportive and loving. 2. Focus on your personal growth. Take up a new hobby, or bring new focus to your health or learn a new skill. Take up something that makes you feel good about yourself 3. Consider maintaining a journal. When things get too painful, consider penning them down. Insights gained at such moments can be very helpful in healing from the loss. Hang in there. It will get better.