u have double minded mentality one u want to talk and other u want to not get attach
AshSaysWhat
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hey there, I've been therr and it sucks i know..wanting to talk to someone but you can't talk to them..you just need to realize that you have your own life ehich is not stopping for anyone. you will have you and only you to get thr dream life you've imagined for you. it's hard i know but you're strong, distrwct yourself and keep yourself busy eith the things that interests you
lazycat2
I'm dealing with the same problem here the more I try to convince myself to let go of this attachment I find myself thinking about this person more so I just ignored the problem and talked with them again not as much as I used to
humorousMagpie7
The missing part should be mutual for both or its just gobna hinder your growth
empathicWasp5
I want to talk to her because She means a lot to me. But I always end up crying, whenever she ignores my calls. She is getting married soon. And it hurts me. I am happy for her but sad for myself.
excitedMare7
drop a message .
lazycat2
and for the exams I'm giving myself a break i know school matters but your mental health matter more so it's okey to give yourself a break sometimes
empathicWasp5
did that help? @lazycat2
humorousMagpie7
I feel like u love her maybe nad cant express it that right
empathicWasp5
I'll try a little harder to stay busy. I'll focus on my studies. Thank you guys for being. ❤
empathicWasp5
I do love her, but not that way. I'm a girl. So isn't it just a friendship?
aloofwolfie
you can try to write a letter to them and let out all the things you wish to tell them and whn you are done you can decide if you really want to send it or its good enough to just have your mind chatter quiet after writing down your thoughts.
empathicWasp5
She is tired of reading my letters. I have sent like a hundred of them so far.
humorousMagpie7
Well sometimes we have to let go of friends who r close even to live their own life
humorousMagpie7
Now u r single and working towards your goals u may dind new frds who will give u support and love
aloofwolfie
if she is already tired and has no wish to be in touch with you it's high time you should let go of her
humorousMagpie7
i want a frd like u
humorousMagpie7
so loving and kind and writing letterw wow
humorousMagpie7
some people dont value this kinda love it is rare in these days
lazycat2
@empathicWasp5 I think it help I'm feeling better now I'm focusing on doing what I like and enjoy doing I feel peaceful now I actually relate a lot on your situation so if you wanna talk feel free to ask me anything I hope I can help
empathicWasp5
But she says that she cares, Idk I'm feeling the urge to call her. But I fear that She will be on a call with him and she will not call me back.
empathicWasp5
@lazycat2 U said you had called that person when you were missing, right? Did that help? Should I call? or should I choose distance?
empathicWasp5
@aloofwolfie Maybe I should move on. But I miss the bond which we once had...
humorousMagpie7
call her the last time ans expect nothing .. u will gwt the answer
humorousMagpie7
try with an open heart to talk and then reality will tell u id it is meant to be
lazycat2
try to text her if she really cares about you she'll respond for sure if not she really does not deserve u
empathicWasp5
@lazycat2 But I'll keep waiting for her reply if I text her. and if she doesn't reply I sit and cry in the corner of my room.
humorousMagpie7
U r into negative thinking and thats why she doesnt reply
lazycat2
I really like how much u appreciate what u both have but sometimes staying with people who doesn't appreciate us can be really tiring
lazycat2
go talk to her instead of thinking about it it won't help just face her
lazycat2
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she may have reason not to answer you and you're just overthinking it
empathicWasp5
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maybe, thank you for suggesting. I'll give it a try...
lazycat2
you're welcome I hope you feel better soon
humorousMagpie7
u talk to her clearly that i love u and i want a frdship ans ask her if she can balnce the frdship and her relationship together ? If she says yes then cool if no then u move on
empathicWasp5
I talked to her. She seemed fine. It was only me who was overthinking.
empathicWasp5
But we spoke only for 8 minutes. But I'm happy. I hope so.
empathicWasp5
@lazycat2 Any suggestions to stop overthinking?
lazycat2
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@empathicWasp5 I tried meditation and listening to calm music it helped me a lot or try to stay alone and do the things you love
lazycat2
and if you are an extrovert try to go out with friends just to keep your mind busy with something else
empathicWasp5
@lazycat2 I have been doing meditation, and it helps for half a day or so. Then again, I end up thinking nonsense stuff.
empathicWasp5
@lazycat2 I'm an introvert...
lazycat2
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do you any hobbies or something you really love doing
empathicWasp5
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Sure, I'll work on that. Thank you. ❤ @lazycat2
lazycat2
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I'm an introvert too and I only have peace when I'm alone I listen to music I dance I draw and I go for a walk and if any of those help I just sleep at least I'm not thinking try something like this it may helps
