why just avoid situations that make you angry and reply once your calm
dejectedHeron0
but what about the guilt I carry later. I couldn't save my relations.
Samairah
2
Well once your calm, I am pretty sure you’ll in a better situation to respond and trust me those responses will be better
dejectedHeron0
I know but what if the person couldn't understand us after this and wants to get rid of us even after we have apologised
Samairah
3
Well atleast you do your best
dejectedHeron0
what should I do
Samairah
3
Again it’s the person choice and if you do your best they will understand
vedha
1
did someone hurt you ?
dejectedHeron0
yes
dejectedHeron0
they just want to get rid of me now
vedha
3
i m facing the same rn.
dejectedHeron0
so are you doing anything for that
vedha
1
i tried my extreme best. but that person doesnt want me back.
dejectedHeron0
did you hurt that person intentionally
vedha
1
no.. he was the love of my life.. he dumped me for literally no reason.
dejectedHeron0
1
did you ask him for a valid reason
vedha
1
Yeah.. i did..
vedha
1
I even called him an hour before..
vedha
1
I pleaded him to not avoid me
dejectedHeron0
then what did he do? if he avoided you and if he knows that you are suffering after this. then its better don't hurt yourself because of him. the closure you are seeking is within you. so take care of yourself he will realise it sooner or after. dw
vedha
1
I dont know how to explain.. i loved him to death. I did everything according to his favour.. and now he is saying he dont think our relationship wont go right in future.. i asked him for a proper reason and he just said... even he doesnt know properly.
dejectedHeron0
1
don't plead ..if he ain't giving any closure n proper reason. dnt even ask. let time pass. everything will be at its place. if he is not sure about you don't message him. focus on your well being. right person won't leave you ever.
vedha
2
Yh.. i can understand that.. but i loved him more than myself. Now i am not even able to do my daily chorus. Everything reminds me of him
dejectedHeron0
2
I can understand that. I have been there in your place. but you know as days pass by, as time goes there is only one person who is constant with us and that is we ourselves. you were with yourself self even before he came and now after he has left you are the only one who is constantly with yourself. I know it's hard to focus on life rn. but you can try to support yourself and make yourself stable. do things for yourself now. and better way to heal is to accept things as they are instead of figuring out past and thinking about it you are only going to waste your things. let things be as they are going. time heals everything and even changes everything. you just need to be try for yourself. you are strong remember that, that's why you loved someone then now why not be strong to love yourself.