why

what happened

hi excitedtomatoes lets help curious

okay so what happened is😭

pls tell

We won't judge you.. go ahead

there's this guy he has always been very sweet to me like very sweet. he understood very personal feelings about me without me telling like and i just fell for him. he time to time told me he adored me but he never really had same feeling for him. he has a cold personality so he just don't want to date anyone. he flirts and sexts alot of girl and ukw he even kissed me and idk i'll explain the kiss

first we casually met where he said he can turn anybody on easily i protested so he was just trying to breathe near my neck and lips and suddenly he kissed me and asked to continue i was clueless. i went silent that day to him coz as much as i wanted it but he didn't feel anything for me. he was explaining trash to me saying he wanted to do it i asked why he said he don't know. he stated i was his first kiss. he said as i did so many things for him he wanted to award me for that. he said he won't remember this kiss it wasn't special then i face him he changed his statement and said no i mean i'll remember but blurry memory i will remember the kiss with the loml only like perfectly. then he later also said he'd like to have more with me. i didn't talk to him that day so he was so desparate to make me talk. i didn't but i later gave on thinking maybe it's the time he'll start feeling for me. we met next day too. we had a solid kiss and said alot of things "i will never get enough of you" "i can do this whole day" and so on and so on and after that day he suddenly started changing but he still asked me on my bday for kiss as a gift which was 5 days ago. i never even approached him for a handshake but he was always the one doing all the physical things and i just don't know. i invested myself so much in him that it's hard for me to back off. because i don't know what it meant for him but i meant the world for me.

i just don't know. he is like ahh

Ok. And are you two in a relationship or just friends? You are emotionally investing, so you need to be sure what you want from him

i need him as a partner fs. like relation. but we are just friends

have you let him know? Is he ready to commit? You mentioned he sexts a lot of girls

it's not about the label to the relation tbh i just want him to love me like the way i do. or just stop showing mixed signals. stop saying things he don't mean and keep me attach by them

no he doesn't date anyone. he ain't in dating

are you sure about that

i mean you should ask him about how you feel inside

Well you should talk to him about what and how he feels. Don't invest emotionally if he doesn't feel the same. Because from what you've told, he may not give you the same

i have already been emotionally invested in him

he's just like idgaf kind of

makes me feel like a burden fs then come at me saying " no u aren't a burden" but action speaks louder than. words

I get it. He probably wants to be friends with benefits with no emotional attachment. You should proceed only if you feel you can be the same.. with no strings attached. Otherwise you know when to stop

no he mentioned he doesn't want friends with Benefits either

What does he want???

i think excited tomatoes is right (curious) should reconsider whether she is fully confident and trust then only she should invest

in him