i want some advice on my relationship can you help me with that
yes i'll try
you can share anything u want.
are you from india not asking about your personal information its just a few things are region specific
well I'm from India
most users are from india dont worry
okayy so there's a guy i love
he says that he loves me too but can't be in a relationship beacuse we do not have a future
i know too that we do not have a future cosidering all the situation
but i can't get over him
why do guys u dont have any future? if u dont mind me asking
umm.. we are from same village and according to customs you can not marry a person of your village
i want to be with him so badly... i feel anxious when he doesn't talk to me
pretty similar to gotra system in hinduism isnt it
huh, why? I know there can be some weird rules ? but any specific regions?
gotra system is based on ur kundali I think
ya bt same gotra marriage is prohibitted
gotra here means caste
moving to the point...
yeah I know that, but I mean to know that u both are from same gotra, ull ve to consult some experienced priest
gotra is not a problem here same village iss
yes i get it
nishjay - gotra and caste are two diff things. u can be from same caste yet diff gotra
have u discussed openly to ur family????
skylar i agree
so i tried to move on from him.. but he keeps on coming back to me.. one day he'll act like he loves and another day he just ignores me... he goes hit and cold on me
u r pretty right
gotra is not a concern guys... everthing is fine except this village thing
so does your villager have that concept - like one village, one family - aka sibling kinda thing? that's why u r prohibited?
so it is obviously clear u have to understand the situation, i decide
i just want to know if he really cares about me or not
i'm confused due to his behaviour
may be if he goes hit and cold on you may be he is testing ur love
u have to talk to him openly
4 days ago we talked over phone he was so happy and really wanted to talk and ge said he will talk to me.. but now he's kinda ignoring me
communication is the key, ask him- simply give him an ultimatum, like either be together or just move on. simply going back and forth is not good for both of ur mental health- it'll turn toxic.
he said you can move on then he said can i talk to you sometimess
is he playing me??
do u guys have homo Or hetero relationship? (not trying to be rude) keep in mind things wont be easy going either way
we all can only support u give some tips, but ultimately u have to take actions bravely and handlenur situation, i hope u understand
i'm a girl and he's a guy
i just want to be sure if he loves me or not
this questions drives me crazyy
have u tried not talking for a while and he approaches u and misses u
I agree with thrilledfalcon25, ull ve to speak, how u feel about this whole back and forth thing... even after communicating he's same - I think u know the ans, what does that mean
yes he doo... we stop talking completely and then a month later he texts me this happens everytime
he has kept my photos and stalks my social media
so its clear he misses u
pleas be clear skyler... don't confuse me even more i rquest you tell me clearlyy what it means
skyler is right , she is just saying to have clear approach
does it mean that he's playing me
just have a clear conversation with him that, what he is doing hurts u too much from inside
i hope this sorts out from his side
sorry lol, I kinda disappeared in mid of conv. (duty calls) , well nishjay I didnt mean to confuse u or anything. just be strong enough to face whatever it is coming. and don't be afraid to voice ur thoughts. or anything that makes you uncomfortable .
ya that i was telling
lol now i am feeling lonely i donnow why
I'm also facing the same problem that nishjay have
thank you guys so much for helping me out... i have came to a conclusion and i decided not to talk to him atleast for a while if not ever again... i told him that its very toxic and hurting me and i want to move on now...
i think this is for best for us...keping our feelings aside i'll have to be practical
@nishjay I'm proud of you, for choosing yourself and ur mental health before anyone else.
dudy.. you'll not get anything out of it except for pain so sooner you move on better it is for you.. trust me i've been through itt... just get over it in any way possible