it's just he is playing blame game there is nothing toxic ans stupid in this ..what u r doing is very obvious as u r trying to save your love ur relationship...cause us know long distance is not easy but u r trying and putting efforts ..but on the other side ur partner don't give a damn to your efforts and feelings...he don't care for u...bro I'm facing same ..I know how it feels
what u do to cope up with situation..?
I tried to speak to him.. In fact I'm trying since3 months now but he won't change and instead blame me then when i get triggered he starts ghosting me. we have been dating since 2 years now and i know that it was not like this in the start of the relationship. Earlier in the beginning he would talk to me and keep texting me throughout the day and now he only calls me in the night i try to ignore him though
are u from India.?
I don't know how to cope up with it . I already have a lot to deal with at home and in college I'm trying my best.
yes i am from India. what about you??
yeah I'm also indian
that's nice .
@dreadfulgarlic2 you sounds so similar to my situation bro that college thing as well
😭😭 how do you deal with it?
it's starting to affect my grades too
same yr even the situation has gone this far sometimes I fee guilty
I feel useless
SAME!!! I've started gettinga lot of anxiety and then he blames me for it saying that "you are making me go crazy" he said I'm very TOXIC and i don't understand anything
I want to move on but I'm not able to he won't let me leave NITHER will be give me his attention
same yr I also think of moving on but not able to do
it's not easy ...it's like I'm just a way of entertainment for my partner...after I get usee the Blame game starts
it's getting frustrating
and later what all lest is me alone with no hope
exactly! it's like i try to have a calm conversation and he is like you don't like anything i do
I became aggressive to myself
aggressive? what do you do?
bro u are speaking out me
😭😭i feel you it's horribleeee
are you a girl or a boy..?
use to thow my things sometimes even phone ..use to crawl myself
I used to harm myself..
yes it's like bs tadap ne liye they left alone with no light
I started getting panic attacks and i tried to talk to my friends about it so my friends got worried and spoke to my bf and my bf was like you only want attention from everyone
he tried to make me feel guilty about having anxiety
then my friends blocked me too..🥲
harm ..what u do?
u r literally speaking Inner me
when i get panic attacks the only way i calm down is when i cut myself so the blood distracts me
but i didn't fake it for attention mtlb me pagal to nahi hu ki khud ko harm Karu maze ke liye🤦🏻♀️😐
I know it's not fake
usne bola ki "tujhe kya jarurat hai tere friends ko bolneke liye u already trouble me so much now you are troubling your friends too"
even I don't have to talk or to share
idk why i am getting blamed
I left hope
samee i wanna break up but i am not able to
plus i have alot of pending studies to do too
u r innocent I know..and this blame game hurts us
it was nice talking to you though!
it's like they just don't want to feel guilty so they blame us
I also want to and move on but I don't know how should I do that
I went through this comment thread... and the first thing I want to ask.... do you know how to handle your panic attacks?
I don't have freinds or anyone
I'm still trying to figure out how to handle it
@lizard - u r going through same? relationship issues?
I thought if i talk about it someone might help but as i said my boy friend says i am faking it
@dreadfulgarlic2 same nice talking to you
so i tried to convince myself that i am faking it but then it only got worse to the point where i loose control of myself
you want to some techniques to calm yourself while having panic attacks?
if you keep telling urself that u r faking it.... ur brain will start believing it..
I thought so too but it's not helping. I tried meditation but that didn't help either
@skylar we are forced to assume so ...it's not easy to not blaming ourselves after such treatment
okay... first check out breathing therapy on this app, and try to do same when your facing attack, 2nd is diverting ur focus techniques.... ask ur a few ques like - 1) any 4 things u see around urself. 2) 3 things u can feel. 3) 2things u can hear 2) I thing u can taste.
I will try that out.. i hope it helps
@cockylizard - I understand that, but feeling like it's ur fault and starting telling urself that's it ur fault are different things... former case is involuntary whereas later is literally like force feeding ur brain that u r faking it.
@garlic - do u know ur triggers?
@Skylar it's something grounded technique or box I don't remember the name
@skylar no I'm not sure of what triggers me yet... it's just confusing
yeah grounding techniques where u divert ur focus to keep urself grounded
okay, @garlic- can u share how you feel just before attack comes?
yeah I tried
@lizard - I've been noticing ur interaction with other people, I must say u r improving in this communication thingy.
I guess garlic disappeared
yeah seems like
@dreadfulgarlic2 u there bro.? if u r there please reply
I'm sorry i got busy
before the panic attack... restless, i move a lot and i feel out of breath and my head hurts @skylar
that's okay, we get that, I meant what thought goes into ur head?
flashbacks of bad memories
@dreadfulgarlic I would love be friend..if u want
are you comfortable talking about them?
@cockylizard THAT WOULD BE GREAT!
@skylar I'm not sure about it yet..
hmm... tell me what it's about... if u r comfortable... you can be vague about it
@skylar i have some problems at home and the people who i was close to left me so..
u can tell more? what is it about betrayal, abandonment, miscommunication,misunderstanding?
@cokylizard yes my Id is fries_000
@skylar between my friends misunderstanding. at home my parents don't live together so it's stressful and as for academics I've been waiting for some e-mails but i still didn't receive them so it's adding up
have u tried communicating with them?
I've tried to talk to my friends but they don't reply
with my parents noi haven't..
they don't reply as in on social media Or in real life?
you can give it a try with ur parents... at times it can help