Being introvert causing problems in life.

Question

My parents were always dominant, i have been through serious relationship traumas in past and even today i am living a hard life both mentally and physically. All this has made me go very silent and numb. I am introvert young female. I never get angry, cannot fight or argue with anyone, cant express what I want, such things you get me. But i am good at my career and smarter than most of the females around me. So all this is just my personality now. Recently i started dating a guy who is full of energy, intelligent and very people person. But he thinks i am dumb because I never speak up. He is always taunting me and making irritating faces at me, ignore me in group of his friends. He is kind of on the verge breaking up, just because he dont find me smart and fast enough. Now all this is hurting my self esteem and affecting my little bacha kucha confidence. Do I need to improve myself? Not just love life but my personality is affecting my life in general. Can anyone help me improve?

perceus12galactus · Answer

discuss what u feel....don't express ur anger....say whatever that makes u angry but in a low voice....change is important for life...people change with time naturally...it's ur decision what u want to change in ur self....at the end...we want to be loved by all...so why we shouldn't behave sweetly to the people we have with ourselves but don't rush ur emotions just express ur problems and search for solutions peacefully.....

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

Worst thing is i am a good person and still keep facing problems. I am financially independent, hardworking, good looking and thoughtful female. How can someone feel like dominating a good hearted person just because I am silent. 😔

perceus12galactus · Answer

u have stepped into this...it was ur decision....u need u keep this friendship up...it should be ur responsibility

perceus12galactus · Answer

mm actually u should know to express ur feelings....don't be rude or angry just say him lovingly what caused u problem....and say him how u want to take on the problem or ask him what should u both do to help each other

perceus12galactus · Answer

it's okay to feel so....but uk....it's okay to learn and deal with these

perceus12galactus · Answer

that may help u as well

perceus12galactus · Answer

u can visit a therapist just as friendlyear101 said

perceus12galactus · Answer

😐😐

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

thanks preceus12galactus i am not sure how much he can understand me, but i will try to talk with him.

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

Friendlyear101.. i tried to leave their house, but they are so strict that i just couldnt. And now they are getting old, so it's my responsibility to be there with them. you know its everything interrelated and i find no way out. you are right i must see a therapist.

satesh · Answer

just get more confident. start with talking people around. do little activities that's makes u happy. parents r irritable but it's our responsibility. but u have to take ur own decision, not depend on parents for decision. talk to your bf and tell him to support him making more confident. I know he will help u out.

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

hey satesh, thanks a lot. yes this is small but nice advice i should start talking more to people around. first few times it might be difficult till I get used to it.

satesh · Answer

yes. every habit build by practice only. so take it as practice . u will feel bad many time when people ignore you but u shud continue. get knowledge of things happening around like movies, music, fashion n beauty, politics etc . this will help u better engage

moongdull · Answer

focus on yourself and try singing to yourself.

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what do people treat people wrongly just because of the way they look or act?

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