i used to have a huge crush in my best friend for like 5 years.....we are good friends....so few week back I told her about my feelings for third time.....she rejected me...i knew that just want to express myself....she rejected me because she didn't want to be in a relationship at the moment....i said ok....i thought I'll finally move on.... earlier she used to be in my mind almost everytime.....but after that she wasnt i thought that it's going good.....but little did i knew that i was just temporary....i feel alone sometimes...like i have good friends but the bond i share with her is special ig...so for some days i have been thinking about her constantly....she uploaded some photos on her WhatsApp status today......and i have been constantly looking at those....i don't want to look but i am looking
eventually u have too ! all the best
don't worry brother moving on is hard
but you need to do it anyway, be strong , indulge yourself into other things which will distract you from her thoughts
sometimes i think i should never talk to her again.... delete all photos we have together....but then i don't want to lose her as she is my friend for so long
sometimes i wish that i never meet her in my life
so i wouldn't have gone through all this
see everything happens for a reason, if you feel that you need to distance yourself from her try doing that but eventually you will have the urge to talk and connect with her, but you need to prioritise your work, personal life, other things ,etc.
she's my good friend will that be okay?
yes , if you can control your feelings about her , then you can be good friends with her
if you are not able to do that then you'll end up the same right now
how do I control my feelings?
you can never control feelings.
then what should I do?
we need to learn to move on..
if you really love her and yourself. let her be.
ik it's not going to be easy.but imagine one day she moved on and you didn't. that's not what you want right . you want a healthy lifestyle. it'll take time ik. but we shall pass this too
now what to have to do is try connecting to more people spend some time with your friends and family. understand your feelings and go with it . love is not something that you have to beg for . and I'm pretty damn sure. that there is someone who's there's for you. waiting to give you all the love you deserve
I try to connect with new people but sometimes in my mind I think that the bond I shared with her was better than the bond I share with new peoples like I feel comfortable around her I shared so many things with her she knows so many secrets about me and I know secrets about her and I feel a little uncomfortable while sharing things with new people
what should I do to become more comfortable around new people?
i think maybe talk about your interests and act like youre interested in knowing them if you actually want to then .
okay I'll try
yes and I'm sure that you'll succeed. all the best
btw should I still talk to her or not??
yes as a friend you can. but try to move on i would say.
okay and one more question I want to ask you is that on my birthday she wrote a para graph about telling me how I am one of the most important person in her life and and how I mean so much to her and her birthday is also coming next month so should I write a paragraph like that to her??
or should I just write a normal happy birthday ?
do you want to write something?
okayyy you can then.
the only advice is whatever you do just don't get stuck again. okay. ik you got this .
thank you for the advice !!
I hope I'll be okay
yes I'm really proud of you and i have faith in you
hey is it okay if i ask u one more question???
so as i told you i talk with her.....but whenever i talk with her, she most of the time reply me late and never start a conversation on her own it's me who start the conversation.....i asked her about this and she told me that she doesn't know how to start one....but whenever i start one she talk with me...it isn't she doesn't or like she leaves me on seen....she talk with me
but sometimes it feels like i am the only one who's giving efforts in our friendship
yeahhh ik. maybe idk if it's the best advice or not maybe try not to text her a day and see how things goes.
i did once....for a month...she didn't texted me....and recently i didn't texted her for like a week and it's the same as before
she told me that she thought i wanted some alone time some space for myself that's why she didn't texted me
sorry if I'm being harsh. if she isn't putting any effort i think it's best for you to move on