heyy

hey

how are you

I'm fine , wbu?

I'm good it's like on and off

yeah it happens , mood swings are constant 😪

there's many things are in my mind

okay shoot !

btw i wants to say sorry to you i spoke rudely to you that day you might not remember

😊

umm I'm not able to recall, not a problem I can understand

yeah thank for understanding i forgot that we have been talked before too

ohh yess i remembered, you're the gujrati girl

😁😁

yes

I think I'm right but still doubtful

oh yes , I'm right then

so how's you , where have you been long time no msgs on the app

i msg but you are no were to seen

you are a boy right can you make me understand how boys think

oh yes I was busy for a month as I had my exams

yup I'm a boy 😅

how boys think about?

about girls

i have never understand this people like why they are like this or I'm the one who is idiot

okay let me get you straight, there are many thoughts and different perspectives of boys about girls

so you need to specify what do you want to know about .

ok as i told you before too

you know why boys this has been happening with me twice like they look at me constantly and then the next second they behave like nothing and it's really annoying

ohh you haven't got past that thing still?

its been so many days

it's still affecte me

as I said just confront him that's the way you can really know what he's thinking

or else just ignore and behave like you don't care

why does it affects you? find the reason behind it

man typing msgs here is a havoc 😂 can't type in next line and need to refresh to view a msg

and what if i told you that this thing happen with other boy too and that's makes me think what's going on in the boys head like seriously

seriously

why boys behave this way with me i feel like do I'm a toy that they can look when ever they want and forget the next second

okayy so here's the point , see many boys have a habit of staring at girls , now what they might be thinking differs like if the boy is decent by nature he thinks Omg she looks pretty I think I like her , what if she likes me or not .. whereas if a boy's nature is not good behaviour wise he thinks kya hot dikhti hai aisi ladki mujhe chahiye,, so difference lies here

see the thing I have mentioned above are just an example many boys have different thinking which can't be predicted, the way to know is just contacting them or asking through a friend

you have attended clg right?

so you must have experience about how boys and girls judges every boy and girl in the clg , like if the boy is famous in clg then all girls talk about him , think that they must be in relationship with him and blah blah

yeah why?

yeah but that phase of my life was different but now i guess my thinking has changed i don't know why

similar condition applies to boys , like when a girl is famous in clg so all boys think about her consider her crush and all those things

so you need to find the reason why you're thinking has changed , if you'll find it then nothing will bother you anymore

ok can I tell you one thing I'm being honest here so like just month ago we just shifted from our old office to new one and that building was an corporate one so there's many offices are all so there

I'll talk about myself , I have a teacher in my clg female teacher who's good looking interactive with students loving and caring so I consider her my crush and ntgs wrong in it , coz I don't have any negative thoughts about her it's just the vibe which I like when me being with her

yes you can say or ask anything no worries

so there's this one man like when i arrives at the morning he happened to be there at first i thought it's his working place so offcourse he'll be here but this happened like every day and he stares at me ok

okay, so have you noticed like he does this things with other female staff in your office?

so first i was like it's ok but the thing is i notice him to be there and look at me every time at a point i onec i fear even like haven't he has seen a girl before

no the things is his not my colleague his a staff of the building like a manager or something

my office is in the corporate sector were other offices are also there you know

okay some ppl may be scary sometimes , i would say just confront him one day and ask why are you staring at me everyday

do you want anything

if he misbehaves which he'll not most probably, but if he tries to say smtg bad just slap him so hard that he'll fall on floor

that's how you deal with such ppl

so like one day i decided to ignore him and i did the same when I reached he was there as always but i Just didn't look at him at all and just passed by him

see it will continue till you don't confront him and ask him why he's staring at you

and after that I've not seen him but now you know what my mind says why that man's his not there when I go to the office

like it's a mix of things which i don't understand

okay so ask yourself that do you like this thing or dislikes

you need clarity of thoughts

i don't know know what i feel like because of my this behaviour I've never been in any relationship i get fear or never give the vibe to the boy that if i even like them or not

few days back i went to have a cup of tea with my colleagues and after sometime he also happened to be there with his colleagues and when he passed by us he literally stopped for a second like he was taking a baby steps i didn't look at him but i know by the side eye

its okay you are absolutely normal

okayy you are overthinking, just don't think much about it .

and this things makes me think what will be going on his head that he's behaving this way

i am overthinking i guess

and i don't know how to stop this overthinking

see you can control your thoughts and not anyone's, so try not to overthink about a situation

divert your mind

try to form a new hobby or travel anywhere with your friends spend time with family

you know what in office I'm all good fine but as i reach home loneliness hit me hard and star thinking about such things

see that's why I'm saying try to form a new hobby

like start focusing on yourself start working out , do medidation, yoga

you are 20 i guess so it's our phase on focusing on ourselves and growing , learn a skills, start a business, or anything like make reels , start a podcast for yourself and your friends

i know if you read this it's normal but in my head it's making a big mess

i know it's making a big mess in your head but you need to get it out

yeah I know

but why such things happens with me only

don't worry it happens with everyone just the situation in everyone's life is different

and don't blame yourself it's so hard if you blame yourself and get into self doubt

ok thanks for listening to me and give me good advice i really want to over this chapter now

we can talk something else if you want

if you wanna talk you can text me on telegram if you want to @Thunderbird04 it's my id,, if you don't wanna text it's okay np , as I'm going have my dinner now

ok bye then