Character abuse in relationship leading to stress

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Character abuse in relationship leading to stress

I need someone to talk to.. who can assure me that I did the right thing. So my bf hadn't been speaking to me for 5 days, suddenly he texts me saying that I should leave the city. He made unacceptable comments on my character, my past, and my standards. He himself admitted that he used to visit prostitutes, but somehow I'm always a victim of character abuse and judgement. I wrote him a long text and blocked him because I couldn't take it. The worst part is, he is my next door neighbour and I cannot entirely avoid him even though I never want to see him again. I can hear him leave home and return home on his bike which is hard to ignore and painful. Also, I feel so stupid for trusting him and opening up about my past. He has been using it to defame me by constantly bringing it up. I'm mentally affected and deeply disturbed by his comments. I cannot focus on anything. I feel dizzy.

excitedTomatoe7

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Moonmin05

hey dear no need to feel depressed u can tell me whatever you want

@moonmin05- Thanks. I'm not able to forget the comments made by my ex. I'm deeply disturbed

u know u did the right thing .. right? and u need to have faith in urself

skylar

is he the same one, u mentioned few days back?

and u did the right thing!

I did, yes. I hope you've read my entire post. It's really hard being judged on my character. He is bringing it up on purpose to mentally disturb me. I feel so foolish for having trusted him. Also, since he is my neighbour, I'm trying to ignore him but it's not entirely possible. I don't wanna see or hear him

@skylar- yes, that's the one. Finally broke it off. It was too much to handle. I can't be questioned on my character. I belong to a reputed and educated family I know what my character is. He himself used to visit prostitutes, how is that okay? He was just trying to put me down mentally. It has taken a toll on me

yeah, I read the whole post, how are u feeling now? like sad, angery, guilty etc, etc.

see being judged for character in a relationship feels like shit ... when someone breaks ir trust it's hard to trust again but u just need tym to heal from that phase of ur life take ur time and believe in urself

Guys just want to defame girls for something they did in an actual relationship, whereas they have no rules. And they are not judged. Mentally this is frustrating and I'm more pissed off that this douchebag is my neighbour

@skylar- I feel foolish for trusting him. I'm glad I broke up but I think I'll be disturbed by the comments for some while

@moonmin05- true. You know not once did I judge him for visiting prostitutes. I trusted him and did not judge him. Now he is questioning my standards and asking me to leave the city and ask forgiveness from God. This is so sick on so many levels

everyone is different some are loyal some are not... everyone have their own way to do things

i understand that but don't do anything that you don't want to just follow ur heart

He actually said tu ek baar soch tu hai kya.. or kitne Londo ke sath karegi.. teri kya standard hai mujhe pta hai and stuff like that. I'm not able to forget everything he said

I've blocked him but I see that he has been trying to call me since night.. I can see the notifications on Truecaller. I hope he doesn't try and reconcile when I step out of home coz I don't want to even look at his face

see if u believe his words then he will we proved right but he is not ...u know urself better than anyone i know it can be hard to forget his words but u need to try atleast right

lovesickporpoise2

@exictedTomatoe7 you need to decide you want to move on or want to be in this state of mind ..if you want to move we can talk but it totally depends upon u as if u will not change the things the things will not change...anyway I'm here for u . we are all are here for u

then no need to because ur self respect is more important than anyone's feeling and anything

You're right.. I'm trying.. I just needed someone to talk to me and motivate me as I really have no one to talk to. My mental peace is gone. Trying to restore it by seeking out advice here and so grateful to you guys

@lovesickporpoise2- Thanks for the support. I do want to move on. I have enough self respect to not let him back into my life. I just need to get over his words for now because no one has ever spoken to me this way

@moonmin05- true. I'm not willing to compromise on my self respect. I'll not even look at him if we cross paths, let alone talk. I'll pretend he doesn't exist

it's ok no need to thank we are all here to help each other in need

just do what u believe is right

@moonmin05- Thanks a lot. Means so much to me

it's my pleasure

yeah @moonmin05 is right

@lovesickporpoise2- There's no going back now. I just want to forget his comments on my character and standard. I feel so guilty and foolish for trusting that son of a b****

@excitedTomatoe7 even if u want to talk one on one we can ... you just try to keep yourself away from his thoughts..later u'll be healed I know for me it's easy to say but for u it's hard .. but for sure I'm here for you ma'am

Thanks. Means a lot. I know I'll be fine, it'll just take me some time :)

if u need any support just text we are here...

@lovesickporpoise2 - massive thanks!!

dude don't say thanks we all are in kindaa same boat

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I am not fit for anyone

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Need someone to talk to!!