Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure it must be really difficult for you? Have you talked about this trauma with anybody? Because unless we don’t face the trauma and try to resolve it, it keeps haunting us. Have tried rekindling the bond you had with your mother? If there is something that bothers you about her, you can try to politely talk about it. And tell her that how much you miss the bond you guys shared, lets have it again. Try to talk to her and know about her opinions as well, ask her about her expectations.

Tbh, I've tried and she doesn't I mean she doesn't even acknowledge the fact and now I'm done. I DON'T WANT TO REBUILD ANYTHING WITH HER, IT'S OVER. I have never talked about my trauma in detail some people know about some things but not everything or how I feel.

Are you comfortable talking about it here? How do you feel about it?

I'm okay talking about it here because nobody knows me

Then pls express

I really don't know what to tell you or how to do it I've never done this before, I don't know how to start.

How has your childhood been?

It wasn't perfect, my mom and dad had a love marriage and there was domestic violence from my dad and it continued from when i was 5 and after 12 years my mom finally spoke for herself and it never happened again, when I was in my 6th standard my mom left us to complete her Ph.d out of station and those were the toughest 6 years living with my father was very tough as he thought that after my mom was gone I was the one who had to take care of everything but I was a child, it was miserable at that time, I stopped focusing on my studies I stopped going outside to play and then I failed my 7th standard, my problems are very deep rooted I have major anger issues now I get irritated very often I am just a whole another person, my father was very aggressive with a drinking problem you know how that can go, so it was brutal.

I am so sorry to hear this, i am sure you must be keeping a lot to yourself. Because of this you now don’t want to have any connection with your mom. You still have anger towards her. How’s her behaviour towards you?

We were very close you know very close I was always bu her side and supported her, but now from past one year we are very distant she just doesn't want to accept that I have problems she is just i don't know another person, there are so many things that I loathe about her.

Like what?

Like she unnecessarily shouts and makes an issue out of everything because she is frustrated and she doesn't want to live here she wants to have a job, she is also seeing someone and I know that and I support that as well but just because they can't be together because of distance she has became very quiet and she needs to tell me I'm wrong everywhere she doesn't ever accept her mistake, she is dominating she has a problem with everything I do I know this might sound very normal but it's not.

No, if it’s bothering you then it’s definitely not normal. You mentioned that you have tried talking to her about this. What was the result?

Yes I have tried talking about this she always blames it on me

Right now we had a big fight and I was shouting crying and all she was doing was trying to fight and prove her point I said at a point that even if I am crying you don't seem to care and she didn't

I think you should just take a break from her. Try to keep yourself busy and escape confronting situations.

Yeah I do that