Communication gap in marriage and unable to share feelings

Question

Hi everyone, It's the first time I am sharing something in such a platform.... I am not a person sharing my hurt feelings towards anyone of course used to share it only with my husband after our fights. But, I am in situation that I couldn't anymore with him either due to the distances or misunderstandings we have recently...  there has been few times where we talked separating but I couldn't as I still love him but I don't see the same from his side.... Thanks to corona and as a changes to working culture...  this has led to a first blow in our relationship; he tried to cheat on me.... but since then we were fighting on several unwanted families stuff. e. he promised he wouldn't do anything like online chat, etc but I couldn't sit straight by not thinking about it when is he so secretive or looking at his phone by messaging in odd times... There has been times, where I have thought why not me caughting up with accidents or death through corona... but couldn't as well as I have 2 previous one....

Samrah Durrani · Answer

Firstly you need to be open with him on what is going on in your head and communicate the same. Be clear with him and tell him that it’s very hard for you trust him. Come to a mutual understanding on how to solve this. It’s good to know that your sharing outside your marriage as we are here to support you 🤗

S_air · Answer

I think you should talk to him directly and tell how you have been feeling and discuss on how you both would like to make this work.

Someonelost · Answer

I fear that conversation will only tear us apart as he would touch base on 'trust'.... another problem is the terms aren't good between him and my mother ..  even just because I love him, I have chosen him over my mother... whereas he would bring in fights between us on his mom topics. My FIL passed away recently and my in laws are good where I have no problem at all.... or that I don't consider as I look at it in a way that it is our life at the end.  However,  he doesn't look at it on that aspect and unhappy with my parents asks me to admit my mom is wrong , which I did but still he is no satisfied about... at the end, I couldn't make anyone happy and I and not happy either....

i am an immature person so don't judge me i am mental patient

hello

Frustrating

help me please