communication gap in relationship

Question

I'm in a relationship since 1 year and it's a long distance relationship. We're friends since 5 years. Intially everything was good, both of us have put efforts to keep each other happy. He was too caring and loved me a lot. But then from past 6 months there are issues going on, major one is the time issue but we used somehow manage despite of differences. But nowadays he isn't showing any interest, no efforts, no response to message or call. Since 1 month we are not in contact, we're are on a pause as of now, he told me he wants sometime and let's talk about it after few days, but I'm not able to take it. How to I get back the life to my relationship? Could you please suggest me!!

Sahitya-MG · Answer

Hi diya. I am sorry to hear this. Not being able to talk to your loved ones can be emotionally overwhelming. Since your partner asked for some time it's important to respect his choice and acknowledge it. Till then you can try to utilise this time to work on your self by actively engaging in some other activity you love to do. Once he comes back you can discuss about the loop wholes and work on it.

Diya · Answer

Thank you for your response ma'am. I completely agree with it. If he had asked just for time, may be  i would have been okay with it but then he told me I can't assure u. He has no confidence that this relationship might work out. Moreover he tells he isn't ready to invest his time on this because he has no much time for himself to do his everyday works, he's in Australia doing MS, part time job. But he used make time for me earlier. How do I deal with this, can it get back to normal? I really want it to work for us. And he still loves me, cares for me but not in contact since a month

Sahitya-MG · Answer

Diya. may be he is under a lot of pressure with his lifestyle,work,and time difference. Nagging him can be irritating and adding to more stress sometimes. Hence it would be nicer to give him space and see how thinks works out till then you  try to keep yourself occupied with other work and focus on your self for your self.

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