Hey Laura, Sorry to hear! Usually, the fights in any relationship will eventually lead to anger and disrespectfulness. It's clear you both love and care for each other but also that you both don't seem to control what you say to each other. I think you should take a small break and get refreshed but decide on this break mutually. Once both are ready to talk then you can discuss whats working and what's not. It shouldn't be ok to say anything just to hurt the other person. Try to talk about what led you guys together in the first place and why there are trust issues. Anger and harsh words won't stop anything it will only lead to greater problems. But first, take time for yourself to get a healthy mindset. Without that, you won't be able to fix anything.

Hey glad to hear from you. The trust issues are because of a few issues in the past related to a girl. There was nothing but friendship and doubted for more many times which caused a lot of toxicity in the relationship. I need to fix this. He is tired and so am I. I know it will work out coz it always does but I think the effort should be mutual which isn’t right now.

Hey Laura, I am happy to know that you realize what's wrong. Yes, the toxicity comes from constant fights and misunderstandings. My only advice to you is that never fight for any 3rd person in your relationship. It is not worth it. It will take time for him to get out of that continuous mental battle and you might as well. True that you both have to work it out, it is also ok to take the first step and wait for him to join :)

Hi According to you what should I do to fix this ?

Laura, I'm sorry to hear that. It seems that the lockdown has intensified the downs of your relationship. There is not much to go by in your post. Could you shed more light on the matter?

Basically I need him to put some more efforts and affection in the relationship. I am kind of unsatisfied and that’s why we are in a toxic cycle. Its like he does something but that isn’t enough and I get pissed then I fight and then The convo ends with lets not talk now. I guess this is the distance Playing games. Moreover, a progress from yesterday I received a text from apologising. However, I don’t wanna be easy on him because he needs to learn my importance so that he treats me and doesn’t repeat this again. Moreover, he has a lot related to the lockdown in his plate already coz he is stuck in a different city and his are forcing him to travel.

Laura it may help to identify what his nd your love languages are and build expectations based on that. It sounds romantic that the other person must know what we want but happy relationships are based on knowing what we want and need and being willing to express that. Here is a link that may give you more insight https://cratedwithlove.com/blog/five-love-languages-and-what-they-mean/ Take the time to understand what yours and his love language are and try and see how you can respond to each other in a way that the other person needs and values.

How much space and time should I give and how can I change this into a healthy relationship and communicate well to improve things ?

It's hard to say how much time and space is needed. That really depends on what your partner may be asking. If may help to talk to your partner on this matter and come to a decision. Creating a healthy relationship takes patience, conscious effort and a willing ness to bring change. Try and take one thing at a time to focus on. If you were to work on becoming healthier, you would choose some out of many ways of doing that and then focus on it over time. The same can be said about your relationship. I had shared a link on love languages. That is a good start. Try and identify each other's love language and start from there. Also, try and use I language istead of you. That means rather than trying to blame your partner for doing or not doing something, try and share how that may make you feel. Taking more responsibility for your emotions rather than blaming the other can help ease a great deal of that tension. Please note though that it's not necessary that your partner may be on board from the get go for all these efforts. Be willing to be the one to take the lead on this and continue to make efforts even when your partner is not reciprocating initially. There are many other things that can be done to imrove your relationship. But it's hard to say what would work without knowing more. I would suggest start with these, as you begin to see changes, you may be able to better define the areas that need work.