communication gap with mother

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Hello I'm 18 years old girl and everything seems okay in my life but still i don't know i feel like crying everytime... i don't like my mother's attitude whenever i share my concerns with her...i think i have social anxiety but the course of study I choose is business because at that time i was driven and inspired by my dad's working field but as time's passing i realised I'm not made for this so i want to change my course but my parents are against it and blaming me that i choose this course in the first place so it's my fault and i should be grateful that they're allowing me to pursue the course of my choice but i don't want to study this any more...it feels like a burden to me... I feel completely helpless and I can't even make any friends in the new College because of my anxiety issues... please any advice...

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rkaka
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Well it’s a very difficult situation your in. I can only say talk to them again and at times it happens we like a course till we actually don’t join it. It has happened with a couple of my friends and plus your young with age on your side. Also, try taking baby steps by talking to other people, don’t shut the door for people to see what a caring person you are :)
Zoya Ahmad
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Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure it must be difficult for you. What is your mother’s attitude like towards you? Have you tried talking to them politely and telling them that how difficult it is becoming for you and now you would like to change because you aren’t able to perform well. Ultimately we all study to achieve something and this isn’t your calling. But before explaining this you should be clear with what you want to do now. Ask them about their opinion as well. Include them in your decisions. They will understand. Why do you think you have social anxiety? Do you have friends from school? Try to initiate conversations with your classmates. It will help, try to know them a bit. Tell them about yourself.
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Antisocial
Thank you so much for replying! About my mother's attitude i can only say she's very harsh and always blame me for every problem i try to share with her...she thinks I just want attention and her problems are greater than mine...my dad is supportive but i feel i Don't deserve this support from him after all i have only caused him stress and he's already very busy person . I'm always anxious and sensitive whenever i have to meet people. All i can say my mind is messed up... I don't want to stress them anymore by adding this up...
Zoya Ahmad
It’s great that your father is supportive. You wont cause any stress you just need a little push. Trust your father will be very happy tonknow that his daughter can share anything with him. You can infact ask him to talk to your mother, tell him about how you feel and ask him if he can talk to your mom about the whole situation. Ask him to talk to her that it would be nice if she changes her perspective and behaviour towards you. This might help. What are the things in your mind right now, please share.
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