comparison with peers

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can anybody please tell me how i can stop comparing myself with my peers who seem to have a clear superiority in every positive aspect. thus competition of everyday life is litterally tearing my brain to a million tiny useless pieces and im not able to concentrate things that im good at, which seem to shrink day by day

Amialone?

3 Answers
Zoya Ahmad
Hey! Thanks for reaching out. Try to not compare yourself with others. In what aspect do you think they are superior? And why is it making your abilities shrink?
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Amialone?
i am trying but it doesnt work. they srudy harder than i do, they are more popular than i am, more feminine and desirable than i am, they are better equipped when solving their problems whereas i roam in clouds of uncertainty . they get to control all their lives, they get wbatever they ask for. i have to consuder my family with every decision i make coz i have a larve family. and my parents also deny me things they think arent that necessary. fir eg, if i ever asked for a phone before 10th standard, it would be looked upon as a joke. i am not able yo concentrate in the little abilities i have. whenrver i try to do something i get the negative thoughts that anyway i cant do it better than them so whats the use anyway? and it is demotivating so im afraid im losing out on my skills
thisiswater
Three things i can suggest here. 1) Limit social media usage. 2) Be happy for others for their life and happiness, including people who you might dislike. (This can be hard at first. Eead up on "loving kindness" online). 3) Focus getting things "done" and not being perfect. Is it done? good. That is more than necesaary. Dont focus on perfection.