Clearly she is not sure herself but according to me, it is also clear that she is not so connected to you as you are. Seems like you are her backup, whenever that guy screws up she comes to you and then go backs to him again. What I can suggest is to get out of this mess, stay away from this chaos, and start your life again without these people. It's easier for me to say and equally difficult for you to do. But this is going to go on forever, she is not going to leave that guy and you will be waiting for her. I hope you make a wise decision and keep your headstrong and focus your energy elsewhere.

I completely agree with Sunshineme. The way you have described things clearly indicates this only. As you are married, I will suggest you to focus on your family and let the things go which are out of your control.

I need some clarity. So you were previously married. And for the past 2 years you have been in a relationship with someone else? Is that right?

I have been married & still married . This girl I hv known for over 10 ++ yrsss was troubled . This other Man ( who is also married even today ) kept promising her to get married . But till date he did not . She got divorced On his promises n even left her house , money & even children . She even tried to commit suicide few yrs back bcoz of this guy . Hearing her sad state I felt very sorry n felt that since she was Vulnerable, she was used . Hence , I fell for her . And even she did . But this guy kept in touch with her . Since she has committed to me , I never objected . But she cheated n even travelled domestically n internationally . On asking she refused & even got very very rude . Since I was instrumental in even helping get her children back . I thought she will never lie to me . But this is what it is as of today . And therefore I am in a deep fix , pls suggest . I cannot understand what made her do this n go back to same person who has ruined her life . Is it money or her sick mindset . Because she kept saying to me I will marry You , I swear by my children etc . Pls help advise . Thanx