what were the circumstances under which she got intimate with someone else? was she drunk or something like that?

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I also need answer for this question

no. once a cheater always a cheater. move on it's better for you

Hi.. I have been there. and with my experience.. I will tell you .. confessing is not the hardest part... The hardest part is answering your partners question. Even if you answer that .. it will take a lot of you and a lot of him ..u will both lose a part of you.

see guys sometimes the other person falls under some circumstances which can be forgiven . but at the end of the day , cheating is never a mistake . its always a choice. if u r thinking to forgive your partner , things wont be the same as it was before. personally i would've never accepted cheating no matter whatever the reason might be . it depends completely on you

thats so worse. trust was a big thing between us. we both were very loyal till now

hey @hearttofell.. can u answer my question as to what were the circumstances under which ur partner cheated on u?

@johndoe.. i feel the same. I don't think i am worth it now. and i am ready to leave him. but he will never understand why i felt

Berniexx can a relationship still works if one partner has cheated and confessed about it?

see trust is something which is a pillar .. it will bother both in future too, thoughts like is it still the same, is he cheating, such will come in future .. Once someone is cheating in any circumstances, he knows he is doing wrong yet choses this so most cases u can say that it is selfishness .. N if u have chosen to be in a relationship u have to follow certain things n it's not just that it's feelings yaar .. someone who loves u will not try to hurt you right or do a thing that can bring problems, if he is drunk then too there are certain situations where u can forgive but still if the person was made unconscious without any awareness or approval of person, it's different

if you have done something.. like dt.. I would suggest don't confess... if the relationship hurts.. u need to leave .. if your partner has cheated on you .. if you have the heart to forgive ...do it.. but remember your partner is suffering too.. in this situation.. my best advice is to leave ... I am still with the one I loved .. and things are not as great as it could have been ... even if the reason I cheated was him ... but I was very wrong at my part .. n I ll always be speechless ... nothing matters at the end of the .. u r both going to suffer ... it is an unbearable pain.. I can't put it in words... it still hurts.. it's been 5 to 6 months.. n I know he can't forgive me.. and all I can do is beg.. this thing has spoiled my future.. bcz I m now married to him ... and both of us are suffering.. I don't even know how long this marriage will last. so whichever position u r in right now.. run .. and if u ready to jump into the fire for ur love.. it's obsession ..in my case..I don't know it was fire I was jumping into.

if u are in a relationship, there are certain things u need to take care about, u came into relationship by your choice right, u made a commitment by your own choice, then u must take care of certain things right

@happyguy.. we have spoken some of my story before, my bf refused to marry me, and asked to carry on my marriage search. i met this new guy who my parents chose for me. after a few meets we drank and got physical. but again our marriage is not fixed yet. and now my bf is asking me out, once i started moving on. I want to go back to him, but i feel impure for him.

@brainyMeerkat1 it depends from person to person ... however, since my experience has been not so great ... I would ask you.. is the person you are willing confess to ..is worth staying for.. .if you truly think ..he is the right person.. do not confess.. and I belive 99 percent of the time... u both will suffer.. 1 odd case.. u could come out of it.. and never truly belive each other..unless u r truly blind in love

ok so u in this case u were the one who had sex with someone else. as much as i can recall from our past conversation, i remember asking you to focus on any one of them out of which this new guy was the better option .

@Heretofeelbetter i feel like ur and my story is very same... it's the same that happened to me.. in this case.. if the guy is psycho ..run for ur life.. and if he is not ... he got to be 1000 % understanding

see not confessing means u r being selfish for ur needs na, not confessing is like trust todna right .. see everyone has desires na, but both of them should know and control, if u have given a commitment u must try to keep it's trust

@brainyMeerkat1 .. there is a chance it could survive... but don't get stuck for too long. is my suggestion

@bernie.. oh god!! your story looks more complicated. I can feel you till some extent. thanks for sharing, stay strong.

so basically what simply u r saying is don't value someone's trust n see for ur selfish needs, if he is worth don't confess, waah kya baat hai

how would you feel if u r been cheated, just imagine that

Berniexxx... what do you think? In love people can ignore mistakes atleast for once?

if u r been cheated n not told then, if u have done mistakes u must first accept them right, it's hard to accept but must atleast try to n not to take advantage of other person ka trust too, trust is such a big factor in a relationship, it's as simple as fooling someone, u find the other person is nice n islie don't confess n what about the wrong jo other person ke saat ho raha hai .. love is selfless always, remember that

@happyguy. yes you are right about what we discussed. my bf is interfering too much into my arrange marriage procedure. and proposing me on and off.. but he is not sure. thats why i very confused to choose one between them. and cherry on the top i had sex with my maybe fiance.

if u don't feel the same way it's fine but atleast give clarity to each other ..

if he was also like that n things n situation were different, it is understandable, but give clarity and as I said love is selfless .. if u were not at fault or if he is not at fault .. just sort n give clarity to things n make sure u r not doing wrong with someone n Don't with urself too

no he is not wrong. he is very nice person. happy soul. I just dont want to hurt him. at any cost.

Ok, but then if u lie aren't u doing wrong with that person, how would u feel, it's the same way, u made the mistake, just accept it, u cheated during a relationship or after break up kinda, cause after break up dekha jaae to cheating nahi hai, during relationship, it is cheating, but no matter what according to me not confessing is like other person ka trust aur Tod rahe hai, isn't that selfish, I know it must be hard for u to accept and tell, but accepting is the first thing to become better

okay. I will think over this deeply. all the consequences. if i get some courage. I will tell him.

hmm first accept n then tell n then leave the decision on him, just like you take decision even he has the same right .. it's equal between both of u

he might leave me, or even accept back, but with half heart. he will never trust me again